FelixTheCat Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 Hi everyone, i made a post here a few weeks ago (some bullet points below to cut to the chase) - we were together for 14 years (broken up amicably) - we have a 7 year old son - he started seeing someone from his work a week after we broke up (they have now been together officially for 5 weeks) - we are still living together (he is always out i dont really see him and he sleeps downstairs or at hotels) - he is looking to move in with his new gf asap Now at first it was tough, seeing him move on so quickly, and doing everything with this new girl that he refused to do with me (planning a holiday, taking her out for food, nights out, cinema dates, buying her expensive gifs and jewellery, staying at countryside hotels etc) but now it doesn't bother me. He has moved on and i feel like my head and heart have both moved on as well. Anyway, i finally went out on my own date (an old friend who i grew up with got in touch and we had a brilliant time) but when i got home my ex started on me. Calling me names, saying his new gf hates me (i dont hate her, she doesnt even know me and i dont know her), asking if i had slept with him and really intimate questions i refused to answer, that no guy will ever want to be with me. I didnt rise to it and just ignored the comments. I just didnt understand where all this came from when he has so clearly moved on and is planning on living with his gf so why cant i move on with my life? I actually decided that i wont see this guy (or anyone else) again until my ex isn't living with me. Plus, im not actually ready for a new relationship (our son comes first of course) but i can still make new friends. Why does he act like he hates me tho? In all this time he hasn't taken our son out once (this does make me mad but i refuse to even comment on his behavior because i dont want to make things difficult and turn more nasty) but he is doing well at school (i told his teacher to keep an eye out for different behavior) and he seems happy. I just keep reassuring him because this chat will need to happen soon when his dad eventually moves out. I will have custody and he said he will come and see him after school most days for an hour then have him sleep over at his new house every other weekend. This does all sound very soon for him to be introduced to someone new but i suppose its best if i just go with the flow. Do i ask to meet his new gf even tho he says she hates me? I want to be adult about this but i dont want to be taken for a mug, i just want an easy life, him out of the house asap and our son to be happy. But the dreaded conversation we will have to have with our son is dawning on me now. xxx Link to comment
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