MaggieThisntha Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 After a gut-rotting heartbreak and pining for him for 3 months, my partner and I met a few days ago. He said he'd talk to me again soon but I have been feeling weird. He broke my heart and then went on holidays for 2 months. He says he feels better now but what does it mean for our future? He was telling crude stories from his trip and they turned me off. Are all boys like that? They like to tell sex jokes etc? We're smsing casually but I hate this place. A part of me wants to be normal and back in full swing with him but I dont want to be the one asking for it. The other part of me is put off by his behaviours and converstation. He promised to marry me several times and then backtracked. Then dumped me. He wants to travel and just enjoy life. I think we should plan the important things in life. We're both in our thirties. I feel numb. What happened to our crazy attraction??!! Is it gone? Is he feeling distant too? What should i do Should i ask to meet him and try to.build or should i talk to him and see if we even can build or let him take the decision to meet or not meet I'm in pain Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 Then dumped me. He wants to travel and just enjoy life. so he did .... He broke my heart and then went on holidays for 2 months. He says he feels better now and he REALLY did He was telling crude stories from his trip It all just tells its own story ...he got a bit bored , felt like he hadn't lived enough , seen enough, slept around enough , he had an itch to scratch and it meant more to him then you did .....so he went off and did a lot of scratching and now he is ok ...lol ..good for him eh !! Be careful , choose wisely and don't put yourself back if your gut is telling you something else . I think you are seeing him in his true colors , a side you didn't see before . Link to comment
SherrySher Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 I agree with Pippy and just wanted to add, not all "boys" are like that when it comes to sex jokes, etc. It's tasteless and shows a lack of caliber, in my opinion. Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 I agree with Pippy and just wanted to add, not all "boys" are like that when it comes to sex jokes, etc. It's tasteless and shows a lack of caliber, in my opinion. Yes of course , very important ...don't think all boys are like this , there are some beautiful souls out there , never give up . Link to comment
Minnimouse Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 It's sounds like he is not the person you fell for. Link to comment
Andrina Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 Past behavior predicts future behavior. He dumped you once. He'll do it again. Go no contact so you can have closure. If this is your idea of a premium lifetime partner, your self esteem needs some boosting. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 Sorry to hear this. However after a breakup there is no "what does it mean for our future?' and "I think we should plan the important things in life" because it's over. He has the right to be single and travel and do whatever he wants. You need to go no contact and block and delete him so you can heal and move on. Telling sex jokes and texting is not reconciliation. Do not hang out or buzz around in limbo. Pull your self respect together accept that he broke up and focus on yourself and moving forward.my partner and I met a few days ago. We're smsing casually but I hate this place. Then dumped me. He wants to travel and just enjoy life. . We're both in our thirties. Link to comment
MaggieThisntha Posted January 21, 2017 Author Share Posted January 21, 2017 Sorry to hear this. However after a breakup there is no "what does it mean for our future?' and "I think we should plan the important things in life" because it's over. He has the right to be single and travel and do whatever he wants. You need to go no contact and block and delete him so you can heal and move on. Telling sex jokes and texting is not reconciliation. Do not hang out or buzz around in limbo. Pull your self respect together accept that he broke up and focus on yourself and moving forward. He indirectly implied getting back together when we met but doesn't message etc. Also I love him still i think but his thinking process turns me off. So immature. Only one word describes it.......uuuuggh!!! Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 You can be very attracted to people who are impossibly incompatible. I love him still i think but his thinking process turns me off. So immature. Link to comment
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