not getting any....

[softball_dude]

hello everyone....after about a year and a half of being together with my gf our bedroom life has gotten to the point where we're doing it like once or twice a month....i love sex....kinda gotta have it..lol....anyways, i was just looking for some advice on the matter...thanks

[Caldus]

Perhaps there's a problem with the relationship itself that needs to be addressed? Communication is key you know.

[RayKay]

If you are "mature" enough to have sex, you should also be able to talk about it with her about what bothers you and to find solutions.

 

Females often link sex and their desire for it to how they feel EMOTIONALLY in the relationship. The more emotional connection and fulfillment they feel, the more they will generally enjoy sex and want it. And the more dissatisfied or less appreciated/connected they feel the less into sex they may be. So look at that part of the relationship.

 

Also remember foreplay starts long before the clothes come off, it starts just by doing caring things, by making her feel emotionally fulfilled.

 

While it may be easy to "blame her" for the lack of sex, you need to look at your side and the deeper issues - just because you want it does not mean you are not also playing some role.

 

You need to talk to her and find out what the issues are, and maybe also she is getting bored of it and needs something to spice it up...but the only way you will know what is going on is by having an open conversation about it.

[tanned_production]

Uh-oh.... I think its time for a talk!! just explain to her how this is making you feel etc.... she'll hopefully be understanding. good luck with everything.

[MyNinja]

i totally agree with raykay

 

relationships require LOTS of work to keep them alive. emotionally as well as physically. communication is the key to these types of matters, just as everyone said.

 

when you talk to her don't immediatey address the issues in the bedroom, but moreover of how she's been feeling the past few months or so. this shows youre concerned for her well-being and not your sexual desires. good luck