Is he a liar or not?

[Shan-Tilly]

Well, for those of you who know, I have asked before if I should stay with my fiance because he cheated on me once in December of 2000. I thought that I was over that finally, and had forgiven but not forgotten...unfortunately I have another problem. I was recently in the hospital (nothing serious...just getting my medication straightened out that was causeing me to be sick)...anyways I was admitted Sunday night and got home on Tuesday afternoon. I found out that my fiance had looked up pictures of naked women on the internet on Monday night. It made me very angry. So, when he got off work I casually asked him when the last time he looked up porn on the net was and he said it was a long time ago. Well, I told him that I new otherwise, and he said he was tired from just getting off work and couldn't think. Now, I don't appreciate being lyed to, and I have griped him out for that...I wanted to know if this is a sign that he'll cheat on me again, or if you think it's just normal guy stuff.

[SilverPoet]

Let's see him..guy's lookin' at porn??..hmmm?..would that be normal?..ummm...YYYESSSS!!! It has nothin' to do with cheatin' really..when we get bored..ecspecially of work..our minds wander..and we need something to think about or to get our minds off of troubles at work...it's just the way we are..( no other explaination has been found yet..but eventually there might be another one?...what do you think? )

 

Peace B

 

"Can I have a sip of your hydrochloric acid???"

[bzborow1]

Looking at porn on the internet, or just porn in general is pretty normal for all guys. However, keeping pics of porn or video's or whatever on a computer for example...is a little extreme. Don't be worried about this.

[Python]

I guess that your husband knew how you would react if you hear that he has been watching porn -that`s the reason why he lied! You don`t have nothing to worry about. It`s perfectly normal watch porn sometimes...perhaps you two could do it together sometime?

[Shan-Tilly]

Thank you for the advice. I do want to mention, however, that we have watched porn together...He never initiates it though. When I rent a video like that he acts like he is very uncomfortable. He says he feels weird watching with me there, because he said it feel bad to be looking at that with me right there...not that it doesn't lead to other things, but he seems pretty uncomfortable about it. So, I quit doing it, and then he looks it up when I'm in the hospital. The fact that I was in the hospital when he did it is what really made me mad about the whole thing. We have talked about it though...I think things are going to be fine. Any advice or answers about him feeling uncomfortable watching with me?

[PJ]

I agree with the crowd that porn is pretty normal for a guy. I do have a little different perspective though. This could just be my own opinion. I think if a guy has an active sex life with his parner and its a satisfying one that he would have no need for porn...at least that's the way I feel..but that's just me. I'm pretty sure almost every male looks at porn some time or another.

 

Anyways the real reason I replied to the post was to say something about the cheating. Again this is my opinion only but it can most likely be backed up by facts (or other guys). I think if a guy cheats on you once, there is always a chance it will happen again...in fact is probably more likely to happen if it has before..than if it had not happened at all.

 

However, he may have just made a huge mistake and realized it..and could honestly mean he will not do it again.

 

As for watching porn together..I only wish my wife could get into something like that..she's not into porn at all heh. But he probably feels that way because..well kinda the same reason you don't want him looking at porn when you are not there..because it's other women..and he probably just feels uncomfortable looking at other women in front of you. As for watching it when you are in the hospital...maybe that was just something to fill the "sex" part of life while you were away..not necessarily a bad thing..

 

Now don't take what I say too roughly..I am here for advice just like you but just wanted to tell you my opinions on this..