What is worse?

[Tinydance]

Getting blind drunk is a choice... Not a mistake. Therefore any actions that follow from that incredibly poor decision are not...by default...mistakes.

 

I agree mhowe

[superfan]

I echo what others have said here in that it sounds like you are both very young and not emotionally mature enough to handle an adult relationship. You have both made mistakes and rather than trying to forgive and move forward, you are hung up on "whose was worse" and the minute details of it. Like a child saying to a parent "yeah I hit my sister, but she hit me first and hers was WAY harder!"

 

You shouldn't be together until you grow up a little bit.

 

That said, if we are being truly technical, if a guy ever said to me "I don't think we should talk for a while", I would take that as a break up. Or a break. Either way, I (like your girlfriend) would assume I was free to see other people. I would also not feel the need to tell my SO about whatever I did while on that break. Why? Because it would be none of his business.

 

Your girlfriend was under no obligation to tell you about her actions. She didn't have to tell you how "bad" it was. Whether she misunderstood or not, she believed herself to be single and acted accordingly.

 

Suck it up or move on.