cooldude1234 Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 SO, I kind of have this tendency to lead girls on even though I have a girlfriend. I didn't really realize what I was doing until a little while ago, as I just viewed them as friends. I can't just stop being friends with them either, hahaha, i havent been able to bring myself to it. Is this unfair to my girlfriend? Should I stop being friends with them? Or am I a-okay? Link to comment
duchesstigerlily Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 I would say that you're a-ok...as long as you let the other girls know that you want friendship only (hence not leading them on) and as long as you know for sure that you will not have the urge to be more then friends with any of them while you are still with your gf. There is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex while also having a romantic partner just so long as there are boundries and no one gets their feelings hurt. Link to comment
Iceman26 Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 I think if you took yourself and your girlfriend seriously, then you wouldnt be flirting with other girls. I am guessing you are young, so its fine. Just dont get in the habit of cheating if you are in a committed relationship. Link to comment
Doctor Smurf Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 lead girls on Im sorry, but I dont know what you mean by that.... can you clarify it please!! 8) Dan Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 there is a fine line with what is appropriate behavior with friends of the opposite sex. There needs to be some kind of boundaries but those are typically established between the friends themselves. When a person is interested in you or likes you then it is a lot easier for them to say that you are leading them on because they are looking for some indicator that you like them or are interested in them. If you feel that the things you do with your female friends is innocent and just friendly then thats just what you see as appropriate. That doesnt mean that others will think its appropriate its just the way you treat you female friends. Link to comment
cooldude1234 Posted January 13, 2005 Author Share Posted January 13, 2005 clarifying: I talk to them a lot and sometimes they hit on me, but I don't hit on them back. I have been tempted to cheat, but I dont wanna mess up what i have, while it lasts Link to comment
lady00 Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 Doesn't sound like you're leading them on...if you're just nice and they hit on you but you don't pursue them then you're not doing anything wrong. However, if your gf found out they were hitting on you she might be mad because she might feel threatened. But if that comes up, just let her know what you just told us, that you don't hit on them or pursue these girls because you don't want to mess up your relationship. Link to comment
joe45 Posted January 13, 2005 Share Posted January 13, 2005 ok give me examples of what a guy might say to a gal to be it considered -hitting on her. i mean when is it hitting on her and when is it just being friendly. Link to comment
cooldude1234 Posted January 14, 2005 Author Share Posted January 14, 2005 i also wonder, how "far" can I go w/o it being cleating or disrespectful to my girlfriend? I want to hang out with some of my friends but haven't because I'm not sure if its "okay." What do you most of you think? Link to comment
Iceman26 Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 I think you should ask your girlfriend what she thinks, and go from there. Link to comment
cooldude1234 Posted January 14, 2005 Author Share Posted January 14, 2005 yeah, you're right Link to comment
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