Bf pervs at women on tv

[Kiki89]

I love my bf very much. He's super loyal and trustworthy. However it really annoys me when he pervs at women on tv.

 

The more annoying thing is that he seems to do this in front of his family. We will be visiting them on a weekend, watching a movie together when a sex scene comes on. He then makes loud comments about how great the (naked) girls @$$ looks. His family just laugh it off and playfully slap him. I just feel really uncomfortable having his family there and yes I'm insecure and jealous.

 

Really don't care if he watches porn etc as long as he does it in his own private time.

 

Am I overreacting about this? It upsets me a lot. His family are very open whereas I'm from a conservative one where we don't even watch r rated flicks together.

[missmarple]

You aren't overreacting. His behaviour is disrespectful and it doesn't matter if he comes from an open family. He can be as open as he likes when he's alone with his family but not when you're there with them.

Have a talk with him and make sure you stand your ground. He needs to understand how uncomfortable this makes you feel..and if he doesn't try to change his ways, well, personally, I would reconsider the relationship.

[RainyCoast]

I mean...i can see how some partners would mind their So just having to drool and vocalize their appreciation of every good ace out there.

Doesn't sound very serious but it doesn't sound very considerate either.

I would think it immature probably.

The family..meh. I don't think their reaction to his behavior matters much at this point. It doesn't, at least in this stage, influence your relationship.

And I don't think it's a matter of publicly being somewhat of a caveman as much as it is about values.

To you, does his behavior hint he might have a loose definition of what being appreciative about an SO means? Do you think his head is on a leash when he's outside? There will be good aces there, can he like....not....drool and be so openly apprehensive of someone else's hindquarters? You say you're conservative so you probably wouldn't just laugh it off if he turned out to be too interested in other women's "assets".

Is it about hot tv hosts or does his behavior imply lack of appreciation for you that would also probably manifest itself in other areas and situations?

This is what would worry me, not the reaction to a girl on the screen but what it might say about him as a person otherwise. If you have more reason to feel unappreciated perhaps try to establish whether you two share the same views on relationships and whether you agree on what amount of attention to people other than an So is appropriate or not.

For what it's worth, I get you- I would find it annoying and kind of think he's likely a shallow je*k..But I'm judging on limited information, you'd have to take more stuff into account i guess.

[Kiki89]

Thanks for your comments, guys.

 

Yes I'll definitely have a chat with him about it. He's done it a few times before whilst we're visiting his family. He doesn't do this when it's just the two of us

 

It upsets me because I feel like he's disrespecting me in front of them. I know it's normal for him to chat about sex etc with them but I'd appreciate it if he'd stop the comments during explicit sex scenes while we're there together.

[Lala5001]

Theres no need for that really.

Speak up and either tell him to be quiet or keep it to himself.

'We dont all need a running commentary of that womans ass'- something along them lines would shut him up

[mhowe]

Thanks for your comments, guys.

 

Yes I'll definitely have a chat with him about it. He's done it a few times before whilst we're visiting his family. He doesn't do this when it's just the two of us

 

It upsets me because I feel like he's disrespecting me in front of them. I know it's normal for him to chat about sex etc with them but I'd appreciate it if he'd stop the comments during explicit sex scenes while we're there together.

 

Explicit sex scenes in a movie you are watching with his whole family? Soft porn on the living room tv?