kate111 Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 My sister broke up with her boyfriend. It was not an amiable seperation. Both are very angry at each other. They had been fighting over an issue involving infidelity in the past. As far as i can make out the story goes like this: My sister cheated on him 2 years ago. The boyfriend never really got over this and instead of working on building the trust between them again his suspicions (and delusions) grew and nothing she could do could make his paranoia go away. Rather than break up with her he tried to get at her by controlling her movements completely and by insulting her when nobody was around. When his friends were around he only ever played the good nice boyfriend. He says that she kept cheating on him and is a liar. He says he has done nothing wrong. She says that he is delusional and that he has been punishing her for 2 years. I was friends with them both as was my boyfriend. Now my sister is forcing me to take a side by saying that she needs someone to take her side. She says she doesnt want me to do this as she doesnt want to impinge on my life and ruin my relationship with my boyfriend who is friends with her boyfriend (which i take offense to). My mum says i am unloyal and hates the boyfriend. I am finding the situation difficult. I am very close to my sister and dont want to lose her trust. But I feel the need to keep out of things and let them work it out. My sister is staying at my house. But now i feel guilty. Especially since she was the one who helped me through a difficult time when my ex boyfriend cheated. Should i be joining my sister banding against her ex? or should I keep out of it? Am i gutless? Should i comiserate with her because she needs it? Help. Quote Link to comment
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