He said, "If I don't call...

[ToDieFor4444]

Hi everyone!!! I'm new to the board. I have a question and need some advice. Friday I met a guy that I really like. We hit it off pretty well. He bought me a rose and met up with me at a different location later that night. He asked me to meet him the next night and so I did. Not an offical date or anything but I took it as a good sign. He seemed kinda nervous. WHen I told him I needed to leave I said that he should give me a call sometime. He took my number and gave me his. Then he said "If I don't call you, you call me." What is that suppose to mean? I thought at first that maybe he was hoping for some reassurance that I really am interested by me calling first. Then I thought he may be concerned about our age difference which isn't that important to me. Any advice?

[Amethyst]

Why the confusion?

 

"If I don't call you, you call me" is a common phrase that means simply what it says. Don't overanalyze simple conversation.

[Day_Walker]

It sounds to me that he isnt going to call but if you want to call him then he is okay with that.

[Dei]

i totally agree with Amethyst....if he wasn't interested he wouldn't have given you his number...i'm sure he meant exactly what he said. just out of curiosity, what is the age differnce?

[ToDieFor4444]

It sounds to me that he isnt going to call but if you want to call him then he is okay with that.

 

Great!!! Of course the guy who response says that!!!

 

I don't mean to overanalyze but I'm afraid that I may end up where I'm not wanted. I haven't like anyone this much for awhile. And doesn't help that some of my friends are really into those dating books written by men. They're all, "He's trying to make you into the pursuer so he can be the pursuee." They're making nervous.

 

One of my girlfriends just gave me an earful after I told her the age difference. Now I'm embarrassed to say.

[Amethyst]

One of my girlfriends just gave me an earful after I told her the age difference. Now I'm embarrassed to say.

 

If you're both legally adults, there should be no problem. If one of you is a minor, that could be a BIG problem.

[Dei]

ok now you have to tell us...dont be embarrassed...no one will judge you...this is a perfect situation for advice. you need someone from the outside to clarify things.

[polygal]

Hmm... so have you called him? Wait a couple days and if he doesn't call, then just move on. No one is worth waiting for, especially if you just met him. If he was really interested in you, then he would of called. My suggestion is to move forward and see what happens, you never know!!!

[ToDieFor4444]

I haven't called him. I'm about to though. I might as well throw myself into it. I may get rejected. But hey it happens to all of us at least once, right? It's better than all this suspense.

[Imsocurious..]

Call him! if hes like me hes to scared to call.. not scared just shy call him please.. do it for me

[ToDieFor4444]

Didn't mean to cliffhang...For those who are curious, i did call him that night about twenty mins after posting. Have you ever had one of those moments when you don't know exactly what you said but you know it was something stupid? Well that's what happened. I made a complete fool out of myself!!! I remembered him saying, "What did you say?" And then he snickered. Oh it was just a bad conversation. Anyway I didn't talk to him the rest of the night. On Thursday i called him to survey the damage and of course he was working. He said he'd call me back and he did. He called me twice thursday during the day and once at night. So maybe he was just checking to see if I really lied him!!! I hope so...