Erik Terzich Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 How do I confront this, My girlfriend left her facebook open and I had the great idea to open her messages. Discovered she is cheating on me with my best friend. What do I do how do I confront this? Link to comment
daddids Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 Telling us your age, how long you have been together, if she cheated you once or has been doing that repeatedly, all this information would be a great help. But a spontaneous reply is : find your friend, punch him in the face until he passes out, then find your gf spit on her face, throw her a euro / dollar tell her thats what she is worth, light up a cigarette and walk out. Trying to talk with her or him over this will drive you crazy, she will try to put guilt on you for checking her messages, he will say im sorry bro, I dont know why I did it, you know we are mates and stuff. So get out of the situation as quickly as possible. Link to comment
toby17 Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 You don't Erik. You've lost your girlfriend and your best friend and there is nothing you can that won't make matters worse for you. What's the point of confronting her? What will you achieve? I know your brain thinks there is something to be salvaged, but there isn't - nothing beside your self-respect. You need to get away from both of them as quickly as possible. And it's going to get worse before it gets better because they're going to be together while you'll be dealing with the cheating. But you need to accept it and walk away. Seriously this is the best advice you're going to get. Anything else you do, you will eventually regret. Link to comment
SpiritofFire Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 You don't Erik. You've lost your girlfriend and your best friend and there is nothing you can that won't make matters worse for you. What's the point of confronting her? What will you achieve? I know your brain thinks there is something to be salvaged, but there isn't - nothing beside your self-respect. You need to get away from both of them as quickly as possible. And it's going to get worse before it gets better because they're going to be together while you'll be dealing with the cheating. But you need to accept it and walk away. Seriously this is the best advice you're going to get. Anything else you do, you will eventually regret. Agree 100%. Trust is no longer there, and without trust..well it's difficult to maintain any relationship. Link to comment
Kaytie Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 I would end both the relationship and the friendship personally. Betrayal all around. Link to comment
Edmund Exley Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 What I would do? I would disappear from both of their lives. Not a word, not nothing. They will figure it out. Link to comment
Edmund Exley Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 In hindsight you should have taken a screenshot of their messages, disappeared, then mailed it to them. Link to comment
metrogirl Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 In hindsight you should have taken a screenshot of their messages, disappeared, then mailed it to them. Reminds me of something I read a few years ago. A man and woman were getting married, he found out that she was sleeping with his best friend, he had photographic evidence and presented it at the wedding. LOL I bet that was one wedding no one would soon forget. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 How do I confront this, My girlfriend left her facebook open and I had the great idea to open her messages. Discovered she is cheating on me with my best friend. What do I do how do I confront this? No matter how you approach this, they'll attempt to weasel their way out by throwing out one lie after another. Either way, the damage is already done, they've made their bed, and it's time to lie in it. Link to comment
Cherry009 Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 Dont just disappear, they will have got away with it without any humiliation. Hmm i dont know what i would do.... i think i would want revenge of some sort. Sorry this has happened to you. i cant begin to imagine what it must feel like Link to comment
wolflovesmoon Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 How do I confront this, My girlfriend left her facebook open and I had the great idea to open her messages. Discovered she is cheating on me with my best friend. What do I do how do I confront this? not to sound nosy but we need more detail to determine if she is cheating,, what was she saying on facebook to your best friend ( he isn`t your best friend in first place) if you give us more details everybody can probably be able to help you Link to comment
Kristenelaine Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 Screen shot their messages and post them on Facebook on their walls. Noone can say you lied. Then walk away forever Link to comment
Erik Terzich Posted March 14, 2013 Author Share Posted March 14, 2013 Anyone ever here the thing about second chance, didn't give it to her at first and won't give it to him. Yes the damage has been done. But the feelings are stronger in a sense that what she could have lost. Hard to explane but I give second chances. Thanks for the help though. Sorry I didn't listen to anyone though. Link to comment
wolflovesmoon Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 Anyone ever here the thing about second chance, didn't give it to her at first and won't give it to him. Yes the damage has been done. But the feelings are stronger in a sense that what she could have lost. Hard to explane but I give second chances. Thanks for the help though. Sorry I didn't listen to anyone though. second chances are given to people who want to change and make things better, and have to prove it,, if you think you are ready to give both of them second chance and they worth it, then its all up to you, people here just help shed some light on our misery but the last call is ours,, good luck Link to comment
Erik Terzich Posted March 15, 2013 Author Share Posted March 15, 2013 I believe they both want to change, but I'm only giving the second chance to her. I'm letting her prove it her way. Link to comment
shellyf62 Posted March 18, 2013 Share Posted March 18, 2013 I'm sorry to tell you this, but once a cheat always a cheat. I gave my Ex husband a second chance, and he did it again. You will never ever be able to fully trust her again, if she is late, you will be wondering who she is with, if she gets random sms you will be suspicious. Walk away now & start again.....she isnt worth your time or effort!!! Link to comment
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