i had a conflict with my father in law need help plz

[Anamiler]

well guys this is the problem i live with my boyfriend is family,

now we have been living toguether for a year. When everything started

all was a dream kissi kissi and everything sudenly it became to cahnge in

to a nightmare when i got my first horrible fight with my father in law.

i was talking to my boyfriend about my school tuition, cause he got mada at me for not telling him about the money i had to pay monthly, sudenly we start arguing and yelling.his father gets in to the conversation mind you that he does not speak english, only spanish.and me and my man was talking in english at that time when he got in to the conversation saying why did i had to yell at my man and whay i was always demanding for him to pay for everything, the guy went crazy cursing at me. mean while i was bacause my man did not say anything to defend me, he is sopose to propose to me on December and i don't know anymore what to do or say i feel betrayed and really sad. i can't stand the fact that he let his father give an opinion about our relationship, still i'm confused and don't know what to decide.................... please give me advise

[hazlcha]

I don't really know what to tell you, but I know you feel torn. Your fiance-to-be probably also felt torn between you and his father. Why don't you talk to him about it calmly and honestly? Find out why he didn't speak up for you. Tell him how you felt.

 

A word of caution. If his father is a violent person, be VERY CAREFUL before getting into that family.

[Luciana]

My experience with men is that they never defend their GF's to their families. Men are reall p*ssies when it comes to their parents, especially their parents.

Sometimes it takes years for them to really defend their mates. A few very men, those who are head over heels with the woman and those who are very independent, will. But the majority just chickens out.

And maybe your BF deep down agrees with the father's comments.

Oh, I hate meddling in laws!