tea Posted October 22, 2004 Share Posted October 22, 2004 No, I'm not unhappy with my boyfriend. I haven't heard a word from him for the last 4 days, I'm depressed and hopes he'll have time to send me an e-mail soon, but that doesn't make me too unhappy. ...I'm depressed about my parents more. I told my parents that bf and I talked about marriage and we would like to get engaged next year, get married sometime soon. They said if that's how I feel then they don't object. My mother also said it's better him than anyone else. ... sounds great right? Except my parents play games a lot... nothing is as it seems. Mom has since told me she wants me to move home after I graduate from college in December, that will move me 500 miles away from his family. My father's friends are putting together a movie production company in Taiwan, and he's trying to put me in the company where I will be traveling in Taiwan (maybe) shooting films with the director from Lord of the Rings. Great opportunity right? Except, bf is a very busy person and next year we can only foresee 21 days where he "might" be able to see me. If I live close to his family he will drive to see me every day and we can spend weekends together, work on getting paperworks done for marriage, seeing a counselor in spare time, and going on a small vacation in Japan or Hawaii if I have time. If I live 500 miles from him I might still be able to go on the small vacation, but a lot less likely thanks to the presense of my mother. He will have to spend some time with his family and I don't think my mother will let him stay at my house... that reduces our time together to 3 days ~ 2 weeks (if we're extrodinarily lucky). If I live in Taiwan and is always traveling shooting films... I doubt we will be able to see each other at all all next year. I heard it's a permanent position too, which means, god knows when I will see him again. I might as well break up. I just want to be as close to him as possible and wait for him to come back to me. Is that really so much to ask for? What should I do? Should I take up my father's suggestion and let my relationship die? Should I ignore the chance to work with whomever directed LOTR and persue my dream? I'm so confused. I would rather just stay here and find a 30k a year stable little job and wait for him to come back... that seems to be disappointing my parents a lot though. Quote Link to comment
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