Do you read into little things and what they do/don't mean too much?

[jonnyquid]

I have a tendency to do this and it seems to leave me worse off in te long run. Let me give you an example: Have been NC with an ex for around 7 weeks now. It ended abruptly and that's been it. Yesterday I sent a text to my whole phonebook saying 'Happy Easter' (as i usually do on Xmas, Easter etc...) and within 2 minutes I had a reply from her....it contained her pet-name for me a loads of kisses....so immediately I get all excited at this (!!) and it makes me feel good obviously. But now, a day on, i'm just sat here thinking 'why?' and am trying to figure out what it means.

 

Any advice on how to try to not do this?!

[HopefulNessie]

I think most of us tend to do that! I spent a good 20 minutes on Friday racking my brain wondering why my ex liked a Facebook status i posted about a news story that had personal meaning to us. But in the end I decided it is what it is. All it means is that he knows I'm still alive and that he knows how to press the like button haha and that if I try to read into it, it wll just make me feel worse and more confused.

 

Did you reply to her message or are you keeping NC?

[Lisabroken]

A big massive YES. When we first broke up i would re-read texts and emails over and over again trying to work out exactly what was meant, looking for hidden meanings and clues. I drove myself crazy. My ex was too up and down emotionally so messages were the polar opposite day by day. Even now i don't know where i stand.

 

I would advice to not read into anything. Actions speak louder then words.

 

I sometimes think they don't put as much into what they write as we do reading it.

[markie6]

Fact is , if he was , he is back to day 1 now, this is why I hope people who are emotionally invested don't reach out ( when they have been dumped) in case it creates confusion

[mhowe]

Well -- you sent a generic email out to your whole list --- so she responded.

 

It means nothing more than that --- and if you want to be honest, you could have deleted her from that list. I think you were hoping for a response.

[ivan11]

Yea remove her from the list. Keep her number somewhere saved on your computer if you need it. She thought you sent the message to her specifically so you broke the NC unintentionally.

[flatplane]

This I've deleted my ex from my phone book, annoyingly her number is etched into my memory anyway, so it's not really helped. Means I have to think a bit more before sending anything. Haven't felt the urge to contact for a while now.

 

In answer to the original question, sometimes. Depends what kind of day I'm having. Some days I'm not bothered at all, other days I read into stuff I hear she's been up to far too much.

[jonnyquid]

Well -- you sent a generic email out to your whole list --- so she responded.

 

It means nothing more than that --- and if you want to be honest, you could have deleted her from that list. I think you were hoping for a response.

 

It didn't cross my mind until i got the response. But yes, I should have deleted her number a long time ago. I have now done so. BUT, it does exemplify how just an innocent message back can lead to over-thinking sh1t! Especially in my case!

[pc12908]

my ex did the same exact thing to me yesterday. sent me a text stating happy easter (petname), and once again on facebook directly on my wall, not even a week after i told her i want to stop seeing her and cut off the friendship as it was heading nowhere. im guessing she is trying to see my reaction whether or not i will crack and start up a conversation with her.i simply replied "thanks same to you". and today morning, she messaged me again asking about my easter weekend. she knows i have a tendency to break nc everytime i tell her its the last time, and i always end up going back to her. but this time, im sticking to my word and keeping my distance.

[dave1981]

What did her text say ?

[jonnyquid]

What did her text say ?

 

She used a pet name which was an extreme term of endearment and only used at our most intimate moments. Plus, a lot of kisses. To put it in perspective 3 weeks after the break-up we still spoke, but there was never more than 1 kiss on text or email and certainly no pet name's etc...but this all illustrates my first point of over-analyzing stuff!!

[Lightning87]

I do this ALL the time. My ex called twice the other day and text me three times over something not that urgent. So to me, I'm like WOOHOO but actually, it meant nothing...

[rhythm09]

Everyday.

 

I go back and forth trying to understand what he meant. Some days I don't think about it, while others I rape my brain. I'm starting to get annoyed by it, because I just want to move on.

 

Then of course, there are times that I wonder why he hasn't called to see how I'm doing. It really really sucks.

[confused1979]

I understand completely, my ex text me everyday. I often end text with night x she will just put night. The other day she put an x at the end and I got excited lol You are not alone in over analyzing everything. I am sure everyone who wants to be with someone does the same thing. Unfortunately we will never know what they are really thinking.