In dating/relationship with a bisexual girl...

[Timbone]

Hey all. I thought this might be the best place to come for advice,thinking that some of you fine folks might be or have been in the same boat I find myself in now...

 

Basically, I find myself in the enviable situation of being the target of affection of a very sexy and lovely bisexual geek. We are very into each other so far, it seems, and things are going well.

 

As mentioned, she is bisexual, and while she says that I will be all she wants to fill her appetite for the male half of the population, that likely won't and can't be the case when it comes to the female half. There are certain itches that only a member of a certain gender can really scratch, I'm sure.

 

What it comes down to is that she will likely be with other women during our relationship (which it is quickly becoming) and I'm wondering how I will really feel about that. As a straight guy, the idea of her with another woman seems attractive enough at first (and she has maintained that I will be there with her if/when this happens), but I'm sure this gets deeper than I am considering beyond the sexual aspect.

 

Has anyone else been in a situation like this? Or similar? I wonder how your experiences have gone, and what you thought of this.

 

Thanks for reading...

[pl3asehelp]

Have you been in an open relationship before? Would you be able to sleep with others as well or does she call all the shots on this?

[Day_Walker]

Well you have to set the relationship up according to your expectations. Just because a person is bisexual doesnt mean that they are not monogamous. If you are looking for a monogamous relationship then you have to communicate that if you willing to have her hook up with other girls then that is your choice. In essence, set up the situation how you want it to be.

[Moontiger]

You just have to figure out what YOU want from a relationship. I know several bi-sexual people who are totally monogamous when in a relationship. An open relationship is always an option. If that's what you chose to do you and she will have to figure out what level of commitment each of you is "allowed" to have with secondary partners. Do have have to meet who they are seeing? Are you going to tell each other every time you have a hook up? etc.

 

Do you know how she would feel about you have another girlfriend?

[vix8]

bisexual is only a general category, there are so many other sexual status's within bisexuals. not every bi person needs both. im bisexual, and for me it means that i can love either gender, but in the end, i just want one person to myself. it could be that she hasn't had enough experience with other woman, or it could be that she really does want both sexes and cannot chose. the only way to really find out is communication. talk to her about what is going to happen if you two end up together, and then express your feelings towards it.

 

also i understand that a lot of straight guys think two girls together is hot. for one thing porn if fake lol, it's not like that. and secondly it's not so hot anymore when she isn't straight, because feelings develop. are you going to be okay with your gf texting you and saying, sleeping as "emmas" house. and you know exactly what that means. are you gonna be okay at home in your bed thinking about what they are doing. thirdly it's not going to be hot, because your probably not going to see it lol.

[pl3asehelp]

It sounds like you're assuming because OP's girl is bi-sexual that she's not planning to be monogamous. If she were straight, it would be inappropriate to sleep over at another mans house without her boyfriend while she's in a monogamous relationship. Given that she's bi, the same rule has to apply to sleeping at a female's house as well.

[jillianjayde]

Has she actually told you that she will want to be with women during your relationship? Being bisexual doesn't mean you have to be banging a member of each sex at all times in order to be happy. It simply means that you are attracted to both sexes.

 

I like both men and women, but don't define myself as bisexual because I feel that I more gender blind than anything. I fall for the person, not their genitalia, and when I am in a relationship with a man, I am faithful to him, and when I am in a relationship with a woman, I am faithful to her. Do I still see people of the opposite and same sexes that I find attractive when I am in a relationship? Of course, everyone does. But being open to both sexes doesn't mean I am incapable of being satisfied and happy in a monogamous relationship with the person I am with.

 

I am also fully capable of sleeping over at a female friends house without having sex with her just because I am attracted to women.