living on the memories!

[newyear]

Can this happen? only living on the memories.. don't you want to have the reality as well? that's what my boyfriend said he wants to live on our good memories. For me that's not enough I want the reality. tell me what you think?

[digdug]

Not if the reality is that the "good memories" are outweighed by the bad ones. Also it takes both sides to want it, not just one. So, if he doesn't want it, it therefore probably doesn't matter to him what you want. I'm sure he is aware of your stance.

 

~dig

[UniqueSoul]

i think that when one partner changes for the worse due to different circumstances, the other one might live on the memories of the good times in order to cope and deal with what is going on. eventually if both partners decide to stay in the relationship and move forward together, you learn to live in the moment with each other and embrace the decisions you made. some changes take some time, and some people take some time to really figure out who they are, what they want, and how they want to be.