Help

[Heartbrokn1979]

Hey; Im completely lost after my break-up and am in need of some good help!!

 

My girlfriend of almost 2 years first asked for a break and then broke up with me last year September / October!! My problem is - I think about her all the time and no matter what I do - including going out; socialising; gyming etc etc - I always find my mind wondering back to her!!

 

Although I had relationships before her - she was the first woman I even came close to wanting to marry - and in fact I was really close to asking her (I had discussed this with my father - for his advise; and did make it known to my ex that she was "the one"); so in a way my first "REAL LOVE"!!

 

I just feel so helpless and lonely and dont know where she is at with her life - I dont contact her at all!!

 

But what can I do to try "win" her back? (IF ANYTHING)

 

Whats the best way forward for me??

[WildHeart]

I think you need to start contacting her and tell her how you feel and what made her think to break up with you. If you feel your mind is wondering back to her, you should call her and see how she is (to get it out of your system) or try emailing, FB chat etc.

 

It seems to me you have found the girl of you dreams, in this case, literally i guess. So you should contact her. see is she feels the same way as you do?

[Mustachio]

Yea I mean there are two schools of thought in terms of winning her back... either continue not contacting her until she realizes her mistake and comes back (which is a really large gamble because the odds are significantly against you) or contact her and try and work something out (but be ready to be hurt all over again).

 

Question, did she give you a reason as to why she left? Were you two fighting, was your relationship not going well?

 

I feel like the reason she left might be important as to whether there is any hope for you, but I feel like it might be better to focus more on moving forward with your life... as hard as that may be.

[golfingjbaby]

I'm right there with ya. We broke up 3 months ago, a month prior to that she wanted to take a break but we never did because I asked if she wanted to break up and she said of course not. I was pretty much blindsided with the break up. I can't get her out of my head, and I've been in contact (through email) with her once every week or so, not to her delight. I'm really trying to stick to NC, but I find it almost impossible. I'm not sure if I'm getting better, that's the scary part. Love is cruel sometimes...Keep your head up, someday...you'll look back at this and laugh. I know we will.