stevef20 Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 So, I went on my 1st date in about 20 years last night, it seemed to go really well, we had a few drinks, talked and laughed throughout and I drove her home, was invited in and we shared some kissing. I left after a coffee and all seemed cool, she text me this morning about 9 o'clock saying shed had a great night and thanked me, I replied within the hour saying I'd had a great day also. So that's you up to date, I think I'm going to like this girl so I don't want to blow it, I've not heard off her since and I've not text or called her either, I'm guessing this is all normal but would really appreciate some advice from others more up to date than I. Thanks in advance Steve Link to comment
Flyingpiglet Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 I'm not really up with the ways of dating myself at the moment... Have you arranged or mentioned a second date yet? (maybe changing your sig would be a good start ) Link to comment
Glowguy Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 So, I went on my 1st date in about 20 years last night, it seemed to go really well, we had a few drinks, talked and laughed throughout and I drove her home, was invited in and we shared some kissing. I left after a coffee and all seemed cool, she text me this morning about 9 o'clock saying shed had a great night and thanked me, I replied within the hour saying I'd had a great day also. So that's you up to date, I think I'm going to like this girl so I don't want to blow it, I've not heard off her since and I've not text or called her either, I'm guessing this is all normal but would really appreciate some advice from others more up to date than I. Thanks in advance Steve Hey steve, I'm glad you're getting back out there. That seems promising and I think you handled it well so far. The only advice I can offer is to keep your expectations in check. It's only one date and even a good one doesn't always pan out. I'm assuming you will ask her out again and when you do make sure to call her and have something planned. Other than that go for it and good luck! Link to comment
stevef20 Posted January 9, 2012 Author Share Posted January 9, 2012 We talked about a 2nd date briefly last night, but not at all today. Perhaps her thankyou this morning was exactly that and nothing more. I'm so out of date its embarrassing Link to comment
Flyingpiglet Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 I would think, keep contact on about the same level as you had before the date, and then in a couple of days, ask her if she has any plans for the weekend. Would she fancy doing Link to comment
stevef20 Posted January 9, 2012 Author Share Posted January 9, 2012 Thanks glow, I'm soo lost here, don't know signals, anything. Good thing is my expectations are 0. I'm more likely to talk myself out of a second date than into one. Link to comment
stevef20 Posted January 9, 2012 Author Share Posted January 9, 2012 Flying, there was no contact until I met her Saturday, I asked her out Saturday night and we went out Sunday, I'm a little unconventional Link to comment
stevef20 Posted January 9, 2012 Author Share Posted January 9, 2012 A question, do you think if she was interested I'd have heard from her again today? Link to comment
Flyingpiglet Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 Not necessarily, She might be thinking the same?!?! Maybe tomorrow text her and ask her if she would like to do something at the weekend (and have some plans in mind) Link to comment
stevef20 Posted January 9, 2012 Author Share Posted January 9, 2012 She's off skiing at the weekend, perhaps I should forget it for now and thankyou for saying she might be thinking same thing. This dating stuff is tough. Link to comment
Flyingpiglet Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 Don't just forget it.... If I was you I would initiate the next contact... But as for what to say?!? well, nothing wrong with arranging something in advance. How about something like. I know you have plans this coming weekend but wondered if you'd like to go out when you get back?? Link to comment
stevef20 Posted January 9, 2012 Author Share Posted January 9, 2012 Perhaps, thank you flying. Link to comment
Flyingpiglet Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 What you got to loose??? In an ideal world, she would ask you out on a date but in reality, some woman feel too forward doing that. I hope you get a second date Link to comment
stevef20 Posted January 9, 2012 Author Share Posted January 9, 2012 Nothing I guess, just proud and could do without rejection. I know there no magic wand, no rights and wrongs for sure, I do wish I was more in touch though, perhaps is see the signs. Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 You have to develop a dating style, which is going to mirror your personality which determines how much contact you have with the person you went out with. Link to comment
stevef20 Posted January 9, 2012 Author Share Posted January 9, 2012 Day, that sounds very in depth, why can't life be simple. Link to comment
Rosee Posted January 10, 2012 Share Posted January 10, 2012 Ask her out again for a specific day/time. She wouldn't have texted you back if she wasn't interested. Link to comment
stevef20 Posted January 10, 2012 Author Share Posted January 10, 2012 Thanks Rosee, I text her this morning and called her tonight to ask her out again, we are meeting up Thursday Link to comment
penelope13 Posted January 11, 2012 Share Posted January 11, 2012 Hey Steve, so glad that you are having fun. Good luck with the date. Just enjoy it without any further expectations Link to comment
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