AnnaN Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 My story is in my signature link. Long sytory short, he dumped me after 4 years because he wants to be alone, he doesn't like his job, he doesn't like he's a 31-year-old living with his parents, he wants to focus on his career, he doesn't care to have a woman in his life for the next year, he is not sure if he is the commitment-marriage guy, in case he is, he will be ready in more than 6-7 years time (we had never talked about marriage and stuff like that). Our relationship was perfect (at least to me), we never had serious fights or arguments, he never show me a sign that he was thinking of breaking up with me, we spent the previous night together, going out, having fun, making travle plans for Christmas, sleeping together. And the next day he announces he doesn't want a relationship any more, it has nothing to do with me, I was everything he could ever ask, he is still in love, he cares, but it's over! It was hard to believe his reason, I admit I did some stalking and made my friends to do that, too, to find if there was another woman or if he just wanted to enjoy the sinle life with his friends (that they are all married or engaged). He only goes to work, he spends his nights at home (where parents and sibling live,too) We talked twice, casual, friendly talking, initiated by me, although he called me to thank me for texting him happy birthday). I am in NC in order to help me get better. I never cried or did the pleading thing. But now I can see more clear, I want him back in my life, it is the only thing I want. After the first two weeks I did nothing, I spent the last two going out with friends (unfortunately, I have a very few friends and it doesn't help), had a trip, working a lot, focus on my studies and school, I even went on a date. There is nothing that can make me feel better. I have realized it more during the last days. It is worse than the beginning and then the anger part. I love him, I feel we are not finished, I didn't have the time to finish it, it was all of a sudden. I love him and I want him more every day! Do I have any chance? I see threads here with confused people that the ex-dumper contacted them, and they didn't want them ,too, and I hope that there will be a time when I post something like this.. I have read so many books and articles about getting the ex back... they make me feel well, feel that I have a hope. I don;t know what to do from now on. I can't let it go like this. My father once dumped my mother claiming he was never in love with her, months later my mother tried to get him back and they got married the next year, and they are now 30 years happily married. I have always been independent and happy in my single life. But why be single when I had found me perfect man? How can I let him go without trying? I want to try, I will not be able to live with the "what if's". Link to comment
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