kat9937 Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 Having a debate with my friend... I think when you are in a relationship, dancing at a club with other guys (girls) would not be appropriate (and I mean strangers...not friends). It would be different if people just danced and nothing was expected...but in majority of cases...people ask people they are interested in...and it usually leads to a phone number etc (not just one dance)... If I saw my bf dancing at a club, I would be like what??!! Or am I wrong here? lol Opinions? Link to comment
Furbys Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 It is inappropriate to dance suggestively (aka grinding or sexual moves or getting too close) with strangers or friends, but if it is just respectable dancing (the opposite of grinding and being sexual) then i do not see the problem so much. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 It is inappropriate to dance suggestively (aka grinding or sexual moves or getting too close) with strangers or friends, but if it is just respectable dancing (the opposite of grinding and being sexual) then i do not see the problem so much. Same here. Even WITH friends, it's unacceptable in a relationship. Link to comment
delicous Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 I think its all dependent on what type of dancing it is...grinding?? Absolutly not acceptable!!...Just regular hip hop dancing and giving eachother space when dancing, its okay... Salsa is fun ,but yeah, can be uncomfortable if you have a mr, groppy hands... Link to comment
BrianH46 Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 I think it depends on the couple. If your both ok and knows that it's going on than it's appropriate. If you do it without telling your partner; it's inappropriate. If your partner doesn't feel comfortable with it but you do it anyways; its inappropriate. I personally wouldn't condone my girl dancing with other guys at clubs. Link to comment
Awoken Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 Yip. No grinding dancing or slow dancing. But better to keep it safe and just dance with your group of friends you are with Link to comment
Stay_home Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 In a relationship, maybe, depends on what kind of dancing. Link to comment
ncoconut Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 Maybe if it were a class or something. I really wouldn't like it unless I knew the person. If so, then fine. But dancing is getting pretty provocative these days! Link to comment
delicous Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 This makes me wonder what my boyfriend feels about it. I know he says he doesn't care and tells me to go have fun, but....he always tells me I should check in with him every hour or whatever...I don't know if this is a sign he doesn't like it or if its just to make sure im "safe?" Ive noticed that most of the time if I go, I will end up calling him before I go home or on my way home and he likes to meet me at my place...He hasn't done this the very last time I went out but every time prior, he has... Link to comment
samantha20 Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 I think it depends on the couple and their individual boundaries. Everyone is different and feels comfortable with different things. Link to comment
BrianH46 Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 To be honest delicious it feels good to know that your girl has you on her mind when she's out and makes a lot of the insecurities go away. Kudos for doing what you do. Link to comment
tbrays Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 I'm married so here's my stance. No on slow dancing. I think that's just plain too intimate. As for provocative/grinding, I don't have a problem with it. For events like my birthday and bachelor party, myself and the boys went out to the strip club. My wife knows about it and it doesn't bug her. I get lap dances all the time (again, she knows this). I'm still coming to her at the end of the night and I'm not making out with the strippers. I don't have a problem if she does the same. Link to comment
trustno1 Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 this is an easy one...all you have to say to yourself is LADIES "I am perfectly fine with my BF grinding on another girl instead of me" MEN " I am perfectly fine with my GF grinding on another man" Now if you can say this without any doubt , fear or jealousy in your heart then you are an alien....real talk you have to ask yourself: why would my bf / gf want to dance with some else just because I am not there with them....1. thats shows no respect for you 2. shows no respect for the relationship 3. the one dancing will continue to treat the relationship like garbage with no regard for your feelings...... Link to comment
Batya33 Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 I would dance with someone else if it wasn't a slow dance and if it was someone I already knew and who wouldn't take it the wrong way. Link to comment
Snny Posted November 23, 2011 Share Posted November 23, 2011 It would be different if people just danced and nothing was expected. And there ARE some people who just want to dance at clubs. It all depends on the clubs and YOUR relationship boundaries on what is appropriate and acceptable. As long as relationship boundaries are being respected, partners should not be restricted access to clubs. I have gone to goth, underground, Salsa, and drum n' bass clubs... nothing sexual happens. But dancing is getting pretty provocative these days! Dirty Dancing has been around since the 1950's. It's always in question. Link to comment
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