GreenCupcake Posted November 13, 2011 Author Share Posted November 13, 2011 motleylou, I'm sorry you had to go through that. I think it's so horrible when someone cheats and then has the nerve to justify their actions by blaming their partner. I'm glad you decided not to reach out to her. I'm doing the same thing. There is only so much you can take from someone who is unwilling to admit at least some of their faults/mistakes. A part of me feels that my ex cheated on me the weekend before we broke up (although it's never been confirmed). Before we met up that Monday, I spoke to him on the phone and he cried saying, "I'm sorry ****, I'll always love you." I knew he was going to break up with me but I still went to meet him. When I saw him, he acted all weird and it felt like he was forcing himself to break up with me. He blamed me for everything and even wrote me a letter saying all these bad things about me. At the same time, he was tearing up and told me that he would always love me. He even tried to comfort me at one point! We met up two weeks after and exchanged our things and he was being really nice to me (although he kept rushing). He looked at me with longing and we even hugged several times. I told him there was no reason we couldn't be friends (I didn't hint anything more). Later on through text, he confessed that he couldn't handle talking to me and that he's been suppressing his feelings. He said that a part of him never got over the break-up and he didn't think he ever would. I didn't know what to say and the next day I confronted him about his lying, etc. and that's when things went downhill again. He blamed me all over again. I asked him several days later why he couldn't admit he was wrong but he still didn't. I was going through mixed emotions. At first I thought he was playing games, and then I thought that maybe he felt regret over the break-up and was trying to tell me how he felt hoping that I would tell him the same thing, but instead what he got was rejection along with confrontation. He was a great boyfriend in many ways but I just couldn't take the lies and lack of maturity and I made that clear to him. I still don't know what really happened but all I wanted was for him to apologize and admit what he did wrong. In a crazy sense I wanted some closure. If he cared enough, he would have done that. Oh well. Link to comment
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