KeepMe Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 Today was probably the worst day that I have ever had, a heated argument between my boyfriend and it went south really fast. My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time, everyone compliments us and says that we are a great couple together. My boyfriend has always been a great guy and everyone tells me how lucky I am. He is very sweet, he does the little things for me as well as the big things. He'll surprise me with stuff if I'm having a bad day, anything that I need help with he jumps right to it, and he goes out of his way for me. Long story short there are a few things that I do not like about him. If we get into an argument he'll really try and press the issue until I can't take it anymore. If I try and leave the room we are in he'll corner me to where I can't exit while still pressing his side of the story from the argument. If I'm sitting and try and get up he'll put his hand on my shoulder and push me (not hard) back down but ultimately won't let me get up until I hear his side of the issue and I talk the argument out with him. For me, I have some anger issues and I feel much better removing myself from the problem and going to a room where I can cool off by myself and then come back and talk about it on my own terms. I've told him from the day we ever had our first argument that I prefer not to talk about our issue right then and there but would rather be left alone until I'm ready to talk. Today we had a silly argument and I just couldn't take anymore of him. I couldn't get out of my seat to get away from the arguing and he kept trying to talk over me and yell at me that I just snapped and I yelled "JUST LEAVE ME ALONE!" At the same time he screamed "NO!" and I turned away and he decided to continue to scream over me so that I couldn't get a word in and I would just have to "sit there" and take his yelling until he got his point out. I shouldn't have but with all the anger that I had building up, there was a box on my desk, I angrily swiped it off the desk aiming for the floor. The box lightly tapped his shoulder as it whizzed past him and he caught it from the floor. It was one of those flip open boxes for example like a breadstick box how it has a lid that folds over. As soon as it tapped his shoulder he grabbed it by the lid and hit me accross the face with it. Immediately he through the box down when I covered my face and he hugged me and said "No, no, oh my god, I'm so sorry." I told him to get out several times and that the relationship was over. It really hurt because he hit me as hard as he could, I'm a tiny girl and it felt like I had hit a brick wall. My lips were swollen and instantly turned a deep red like blood rushed to the surface but didn't break skin. Of course he didn't leave and he begged for forgiveness over and over and over. Eventually after a few hours went by we started talking things over and he said he'll never touch me again. He said even if it means me walking out of the room or walking out on him for good, no matter what he'll never lay a hand on me for any reason what so ever. He's never been angry with me like this and he's never done this sort of thing or even scream at me like he did. I'm willing to give him one more shot but I'm feeling this empty void. Like our relationship has turned completely and changed and I don't feel the same. I just wonder if anyone else has experienced this and did they tell you the abuse would stop and did it actually stop? Also do you ever really get over the "changed" feeling? Is this a feeling that will carry on with me or will it eventually go away? I've never dealt with this before and never had anything like this happen in any of my relationships, and I don't have anyone to talk to about it. Looking for all the help I can, please. Thank you for reading Link to comment
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