BrokenLisa Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 So was seeing this guy, went on a handful of dates. Haven't even been to each others houses yet. He went away for business (abroad) at the beginning of last week, he said he'd try to give me a call at some stage. Said he's be back on Tuesday ( this week). Well he never contacted me until this morning to say he's back. I believe he went to visit his cousin ( same country as where we live) straight after coming back from his business trip, but c'mon. I can understand not being in touch while abroad, but I know for a fact he's been back in the same country since Tuesday/Wednesday. My friend is saying I'm being too harsh writing him off, am I? Link to comment
annie24 Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 I'd write him an e-mail and ask how the trip went. Link to comment
DylanNotorious Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 I agree with your friend - your being too harsh. Link to comment
BrokenLisa Posted October 29, 2011 Author Share Posted October 29, 2011 I don't have his email, we only communicate via texts/calling. Link to comment
BrokenLisa Posted October 29, 2011 Author Share Posted October 29, 2011 That's nearly 2 weeks of not being in contact. If you're into someone, you don't do that ( in my books anyway). I might be open to giving him a chance. Link to comment
DylanNotorious Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Ummm he was away for a week, got back on tuesday/wednesday and contacted you today. What's wrong with that? If he wasn't interested, you wouldn't have heard from him. What's the problem? Link to comment
Stay_home Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 I think you need to take a little more initiative than just waiting around for him to call you, Lisa. You have his phone number, you guys have been out a couple times already so what's the deal with just shooting him a nice text or a phone call and asking how the trip is going? I do think that's being harsh that you would write him off so quickly when apparently things have been going at least ok for the most part. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 I think you're being too harsh. If you and he were serious and exclusive I'd feel differently.. Link to comment
BrokenLisa Posted October 29, 2011 Author Share Posted October 29, 2011 Ok thanks for the comments guys. I guess I just don't want to find myself in a situation where this happens again, or him to think it's ok to disappear later down the line. Also, texting after all this silence is a bit lame as well in my opinion. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Ok thanks for the comments guys. I guess I just don't want to find myself in a situation where this happens again, or him to think it's ok to disappear later down the line. Also, texting after all this silence is a bit lame as well in my opinion. he didn't disappear. He waited until he could ask you out again. Link to comment
Ready4anything Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 After a trip, it takes me a few days to settle back in. Since you guys aren't really in a relationship yet, I think it's fine what he did. I think you should play it cool and be thrill that he's back and wants to hang out. Link to comment
annie24 Posted October 30, 2011 Share Posted October 30, 2011 Well he never contacted me until this morning to say he's back. I believe he went to visit his cousin ( same country as where we live) straight after coming back from his business trip, but c'mon. I can understand not being in touch while abroad, but I know for a fact he's been back in the same country since Tuesday/Wednesday. sorry, somehow i missed this the first time i read the thread. he contacted you! that's good! i agree it can take a few days to get 'settled back in.' you're not in an exclusive relationship yet, so i think his level of interaction is fine. have fun!! don't worry! Link to comment
BrokenLisa Posted October 30, 2011 Author Share Posted October 30, 2011 Update: So we arranged to maybe do something today but he cancelled(his housemate broke his arm). He now wants to see me on Tuesday. Feels like weird games. I'm over it. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted October 30, 2011 Share Posted October 30, 2011 If those are your standards you might have a very hard time finding someone to date but of course your standards should take priority. Link to comment
lady00 Posted October 30, 2011 Share Posted October 30, 2011 I would not write him off. If he didn't want to see you he would not continue trying to set up a date with you. Link to comment
BrokenLisa Posted October 30, 2011 Author Share Posted October 30, 2011 I just don't think I believe him. This is not the first time this has happened. One time he was too hungover/ill to see me. Second time he didn't confirm where we were meeting up until 45 minutes before the date. If nothing like this had never happened before, I'd me more inclined to give him a chance. I feel like he is on his 4th chance already. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted October 30, 2011 Share Posted October 30, 2011 I just don't think I believe him. This is not the first time this has happened. One time he was too hungover/ill to see me. Second time he didn't confirm where we were meeting up until 45 minutes before the date. If nothing like this had never happened before, I'd me more inclined to give him a chance. I feel like he is on his 4th chance already. Yes ,then I agree with you and would understand if you feel he's too flaky about plans. That would irritate me, too. Link to comment
DylanNotorious Posted October 30, 2011 Share Posted October 30, 2011 I just don't think I believe him. This is not the first time this has happened. One time he was too hungover/ill to see me. Second time he didn't confirm where we were meeting up until 45 minutes before the date. If nothing like this had never happened before, I'd me more inclined to give him a chance. I feel like he is on his 4th chance already. Yeah well after hearing that part of the story, I'd be over it too. Link to comment
BrokenLisa Posted October 30, 2011 Author Share Posted October 30, 2011 Bah, it's a shame as we had good chemistry but I'm so over it now, there's no point. Do I say something or just disappear? Link to comment
DylanNotorious Posted October 30, 2011 Share Posted October 30, 2011 Well if you are seriously going to call it quits, you just wait until he gets in contact and you just tell him why your not happy and why your ending it. Nobody likes it when people disappear. Even if that person is the cause. Just tell him straight why it's ended. Link to comment
annie24 Posted October 31, 2011 Share Posted October 31, 2011 he canceled because his housemate broke his arm? did he have to take him to the doctor or something? oh well. i agree, just let him know this isn't working for you. it wouldn't work for me either. Link to comment
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