Flyingpiglet Posted August 18, 2011 Share Posted August 18, 2011 Hi all, I’m at work at the moment, but have spent the last 4 hours writing about myself (We’re not very busy today lol), I’m trying to map my life out to find out why I am so emotionally immature. I fall into short relationships and fall really fast and hard. Then when they end, I go into a whirlwind downward spiral. I cry uncontrollably (often at work which is embarrassing for everybody), get depressed and anxious about everyday life and, though I know I would never actively harm myself, I wish bad things would happen to me. (Which I know is really really selfish and immature) I have had 3 consecutive years single so its not like I jump from one relationship to another. Is it possible that there are things in my past that have shape my emotional self in a negative way? I know this is hard to answer without knowing my past. For now I’ll just say, I have never been abused as far as I’m aware but was a very insecure child and have had a lot of negative experiences, bullying is probably the best way to describe them, in my teens to mid 20’s and then a fair few disastrous (and mostly very short) relationships to date. I’m trying to make sense as I feel I need to grow up now if I am ever going to achieve the sort of relationship I want to enjoy! Thought anybody? x x Link to comment
myhonestanswer Posted August 18, 2011 Share Posted August 18, 2011 "Is it possible that there are things in my past that have shape my emotional self in a negative way?" Of course, everything that happens to us shapes us a little bit. It sounds to me like you are insecure and worried about what people think of you and whether they like you. So everytime a relationship fails, instead of thinking, 'oh that wasn't meant to be', you think 'what's wrong with me, what did I do'. When in reality it's nothing YOU did, it's just the fact you're not a good match for each other. If you think your past is affecting your ability to live a happy present and future, I would try counselling. If those feelings of inadequancy go really deep, it's hard to sort them out on your own. Link to comment
Flyingpiglet Posted August 18, 2011 Author Share Posted August 18, 2011 I don't see myself as insecure so much like that these days, though I'm not saying I'm not lol, but certainly in my past I have been. I used to spend my entire life trying to be what I thought other people wanted me to be (and for obvious reasons, always failing)! I would love to know how my past has shaped me into the emotionally unbalanced person I perceive myself to be today As for couselling, I sometimes think I would benefit but I'm never sure enough to pursue it as a viable option. I couldn't afford to go private anyway and couldn't bring myself to ask for. Would love to be hypnotised to see whats lurking in my sub conscious mind I have posted in 'solo journals' my life so far (the bad bits) Its a bit long and probably doesn'tmake very interesting reading but if ever you got an hour or so to spare.... x x Link to comment
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