in 8 months NC tonight is gonna be the hardest in ages!! :(

[Leon91]

so.. since last summer my life has been up and down like a rollercoaster

mainly down, but i feel i have coped as well as i could have.

 

me and the ex were together from 2003 ( 12/13 years old )

and had a daughter born november 2009

always had a bit of a rocky relationship but we mainly worked well.

however, in august 2010 we found out she was expecting another child.

we were yet again happy and exited, but in september, it all came to a VERY sudden end.

we went out for my birthday-fine, great, happy!

next day - we would never speak again....

 

i have had no contact with her since, not a word

i manage to see my daughter very rarely but its set by a court so that is secure

i pay child support and always spoil my daughter

infact- as a father my relationship with my daughter is perfect.

 

so, that brings us to today, i found out today that my ex went into labour this morning

( 12 hours ago now )

and possibly giving birth today

i wouldnt have a clue though as i have changed my number since we split

and have moved home

 

i am desperate to know how things are.. if shes given birth, if both are ok

if theres anything i could do.. etc

but its impossible..i have to wait for 7days now before ill know anything

 

my current partner can see im upset about this and is very understanding.

I am somehow, over my ex in every way.

i never thought i would be - but it only took around 16 weeks to feel "me" again.

i think the NC did help in the end.

 

this is really just a rant/vent.. but its tearing me up tonight

i can tell im not gonna sleep

 

i would like to hope this is my last thread here as i do wish to settle down with my partner

 

i pray everything is ok for my ex and our children!

[NANsense]

This must be a very upsetting day for you....I'm sorry you weren't able to be there for the birth of your second child

 

just a suggestion, maybe it would set your mind at ease? Is there a X in-law you could contact or possibly the hospital to see how they both are....wondering if you could talk to the nurse in maternity?

 

Also wondering...will you be signing the birth certificate? Has this been discussed--do you and your X communicate at all abt the children?

 

I don't mean to add to your stress...if I did I apologize greatly...just curious...

[Leon91]

sadly, the answer to every question in a nutshell would be no.

 

me and my ex's family never got on - infact they are the primary reason we split.

hospital wont tell me a thing as im not named on my ex's people who may call anyway.

 

nope me and the ex dont talk what so ever

when all i ever wanted was a civil break up.. and to carry on fairly and maturely

but thats just not how she works, if she can cause problems, she will.

 

so i have to wait now until next friday when im due to see my daughter anyway until ill have anyway of knowing a thing

as the social worker who brings my daughter to meet me will know.

 

its a lot more complicated that need be

 

any normall couple would realise:

 

lets just be civil and work this out in whatever way is best for the kids.

not point scoring

 

but thats just too sensible to even consider.

[NANsense]

I'm sorry to hear that....and I agree with you--people should always set aside any differences and animosities for the sake of the children....unfortunately, they are often used as pawns.....

 

Well then...I know this isn't much, but CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU! on your newborn and I hope you hear some news soon to set your mind at ease