ferna3069 Posted March 31, 2011 Share Posted March 31, 2011 i called my ex erlier because i just got tired of the mind games she played.she went from giving me mixed signals to trying to get me jelous, i dont get y she did that if she was the one who broke it up. so i called her and told her i did not want her to be mean to me any more.that after everything i did for her i did not expect her to come running back to me but i expected respect. i told her i dont want you to make excuses to talk to me because it hurts my feelings. so i told her i cant do this i love you but i dont want to hurt any more. im not going to call you any more and if you call me you need to admit that you just want to talk to me. she started to cry and told me she misses me. but she did not say i love you. so i did not fall into false hope. i told her i love her its up to you to what happens im not going to beg. then i told her i love u and hung up. every one that reads this please answer Link to comment
metrogirl Posted March 31, 2011 Share Posted March 31, 2011 You could have not called and she would have seen that you are the one not calling. I think you called hoping you would hear something positive from her. Link to comment
dramallama Posted March 31, 2011 Share Posted March 31, 2011 I think that YOU are the one playing games, even if you don't realise it. You can't MAKE someone respect you or want to be with you, of feel a certain way. It's over for her. Don't try to manipulate her into acting a way that she doesn't want to. The only thing you can do is to retreat and heal, and stop contacting her already. Link to comment
ferna3069 Posted March 31, 2011 Author Share Posted March 31, 2011 no i called because every time she would call she would be mean. and i got tired of it.so i told her ether be nice and say whats in your mind or thats it i cant take this anymore Link to comment
ferna3069 Posted March 31, 2011 Author Share Posted March 31, 2011 and also like an idiot i felt bad for her crying. so i told her call if you are going to talk to me like a human Link to comment
metrogirl Posted March 31, 2011 Share Posted March 31, 2011 no i called because every time she would call she would be mean. and i got tired of it.so i told her ether be nice and say whats in your mind or thats it i cant take this anymore Well if she's being mean then block her calls or don't answer them. A person can only treat you bad if you allow it. Link to comment
dramallama Posted March 31, 2011 Share Posted March 31, 2011 She dumped you and she is mean to you. So why are you still in touch with her? She is probably mean to you because she doesn't want to be with you. Respect her decision and move on. Link to comment
ferna3069 Posted March 31, 2011 Author Share Posted March 31, 2011 I think that YOU are the one playing games, even if you don't realise it. You can't MAKE someone respect you or want to be with you, of feel a certain way. It's over for her. Don't try to manipulate her into acting a way that she doesn't want to. The only thing you can do is to retreat and heal, and stop contacting her already. actualy no, i dont manipulate, i just got tired of her been offensive, because she calls and gets mad , i tell her i cant be her friend, i told her i dont want you to be mean so nc. but she made me feel bad because she started to cry. which i see that i fell for it. and like i said like an idiot i told her ok call if you are going to be nice Link to comment
dramallama Posted March 31, 2011 Share Posted March 31, 2011 Even if she IS nice, you should not be in touch. It will only stop you from healing. You shouldn't be speaking at all. Link to comment
ferna3069 Posted March 31, 2011 Author Share Posted March 31, 2011 i dont beg , that is actualy the only time i told her i love her after the break up. i told her i love u but i need to heal. she is the one who tried calling saying she wanted to be friends. then she would get mad over nothing. so i let her know Link to comment
ferna3069 Posted March 31, 2011 Author Share Posted March 31, 2011 origanly i was going to tell her we need to do no contact but then i felt bad about er crying Link to comment
dramallama Posted March 31, 2011 Share Posted March 31, 2011 You don't need to TELL an ex you are going NC. You go NC the minute they dump you. Link to comment
metrogirl Posted March 31, 2011 Share Posted March 31, 2011 Trust us on this OP. All this back and forth between the two of you doesn't allow for healing. She broke up with you, she's mean and she calls you for whatever reason and you call her to tell her you love her and she cries..... Too much drama back and forth. The phone rings, it's her DON'T Answer it. If she texts, DON'T text back. Eventually she will see what NC really means. Link to comment
ferna3069 Posted March 31, 2011 Author Share Posted March 31, 2011 origanaly we had something planned, she does not always follow threw but just incase i needed to tell her.so i went from telling her i cant talk to her any more to us talking. then we went to she can call me if she gives me respect. the whole time i just demended respect. so i let her know im not calling her Link to comment
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