gary847 Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 I've been split up from a long term relationship for about 6 months after my ex left. The split up has been fairly amicable. She is pretty emotional and I know Valentine's Day is an important day to her and she probably is feeling lonely or down. Question is...what is the proper etiquette for me at this point? I'm thinking of just sending a simple "Happy Valentine's day" text message but I don't know if that is appropriate. Link to comment
lavenderdove Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 Nope... don't do it. Unless you are willing to be her BF again and want to start up with her, let it go. You don't want to confuse her or give her false hopes if you don't want her back. Valentine's day is for lovers and little kids giving each other valentines, but it's never appropriate to send such a greeting to an ex. Link to comment
GotMyLifeBack Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 Since you still have feelings for her AND since she left you, don't send her anything. She chose a life without you. Let her have it. If she wants to have a new relationship with you, she knows how to find you. Link to comment
goodkarma_1 Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 If you say that the split was fairly amicable I think its ok to wish her Happy Vday. There was love there once between you two and Im sure she would appreciate that you haven't forgotten about her on this day. And as you said, a simple Happy Valentines Day seems appropriate...you dont need to go into details - just sending the message is good. Perhaps I am being a hippocrate because I just ranted about my ex contacting me lol BUT it wasnt a smooth break up..he wished me Happy Vday and on top of that made it known that hes in a relationship now basically. THAT is when you shouldn't contact the ex ps kudos to you for considering her feelings. Happy Valentines to you Link to comment
gary847 Posted February 14, 2011 Author Share Posted February 14, 2011 Gotmylifeback- I still have feelings for her, but we both realize it will not work between us for at least the foreseeable future. I kind of feel (in an odd sense) that it might be considered rude or sour grapes to not wish her happy V-Day. Karma-Thanks for the comments. Happy V-Day to you as well! Link to comment
goodkarma_1 Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 Gotmylifeback- I still have feelings for her, but we both realize it will not work between us for at least the foreseeable future. I kind of feel (in an odd sense) that it might be considered rude or sour grapes to not wish her happy V-Day. I totally agree with this. Wish her today and then go NC. Link to comment
SA2000 Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 I was going to send my ex a text saying "I think you sent my flowers to the wrong address. Happy VD!" but decided not to say anything. Ill wish her a happy birthday tomorrow but no happy Vday. If I were you I would wait to see if she initiates the convo first. If at the end of the day she hasnt said anything go ahead and send the text. But dont be surprised if she doesnt respond. Thats the hard part. Link to comment
22n32 Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 i was gonna send her a happy v day.. but decided against it.. let her old fwb do it.. Link to comment
abitbroken Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 Nope. It just is too emotionally charged. It is one thing for v day to be important but to hear from an ex really sends someone into a tail spin. She could finally say "okay, I will be okay today" and hearing from you will make her backslide or feel bad. V-day is for your sweetie. contacting her would only taunt her. Link to comment
homebody Posted February 14, 2011 Share Posted February 14, 2011 What GotMyLifeBack said. Don't do it. What about how you feel today? She wanted out so let her feel lonely goes with the territory of leaving a relationship. But I am mid-breakup and bitter today...that's just me and I'm keeping quiet. Link to comment
miss_sunshine86 Posted February 15, 2011 Share Posted February 15, 2011 NO. Do not. Just think ahead- will they reply? what will they say? how will you feel? I am assuming, it would not be something that makes you happy.... Link to comment
abitbroken Posted February 15, 2011 Share Posted February 15, 2011 Yes, please read this thread Link to comment
gary847 Posted February 15, 2011 Author Share Posted February 15, 2011 Yes, please read this thread ] I sent her a simple "Happy Valentines Day" text message...she replied "Happy Valentine's Day" to you also. People-a little maturity is always nice Link to comment
miss_sunshine86 Posted February 15, 2011 Share Posted February 15, 2011 Well it depends on the situation. My ex has been ignorign me for 6 weeks after i told him i might be pregnant. I think if I said Happy Valentines Day today it would be quite strange given how he did not reply to my happy new year or other texts to speak. Link to comment
deff808 Posted February 15, 2011 Share Posted February 15, 2011 For me we broke up this past Saturday night. 1 year relationship, pretty serious. She sent me a text this morning, happy v day I didn't reply as of yet. Should i respond? I talk to her saturday night, yesterday and last night. Just friendly convo text/call Its killing me, when i went to the store, ppl buying ballons, flowers, gifts... I just had to get my stuff quick and walk out immediately. Link to comment
Yaz Posted February 15, 2011 Share Posted February 15, 2011 Don't respond. She doesn't deserve a response, or you for that matter. Link to comment
Nothisdoormat Posted February 15, 2011 Share Posted February 15, 2011 The proper etiquette is DO NOT SEND HER A HAPPY ANYTHING! Don't do it. PLEASE don't do it. You say she is pretty emotional - wasn't so emotional that she cared to take your feelings into consideration when she dumped you, was she? Ask yourself what your true motive is in wanting to send her Valentine's Day wishes. When an Ex breaks up with you, you shouldn't reward them by hanging around soothing their ego and assuaging their much-deserved guilt. I hope you really think this over and preserve your dignity by not communicating with your Ex. I've been split up from a long term relationship for about 6 months after my ex left. The split up has been fairly amicable. She is pretty emotional and I know Valentine's Day is an important day to her and she probably is feeling lonely or down. Question is...what is the proper etiquette for me at this point? I'm thinking of just sending a simple "Happy Valentine's day" text message but I don't know if that is appropriate. Link to comment
gulu Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 I agree with others here, i dont think you should send her anything unless you want to show her that you still care about her and want her back. My ex gf broke up with me after 5 years 6 weeks ago ( I went LD). I told her that I want her back and she asked for space. I am thinking od sending her a small box of chocolate and brief message for VDay. What do you guys think? Would that be invading the space she asked for while shes considering things? Thanks Link to comment
thelastsong Posted February 7, 2012 Share Posted February 7, 2012 I agree with others here, i dont think you should send her anything unless you want to show her that you still care about her and want her back. My ex gf broke up with me after 5 years 6 weeks ago ( I went LD). I told her that I want her back and she asked for space. I am thinking od sending her a small box of chocolate and brief message for VDay. What do you guys think? Would that be invading the space she asked for while shes considering things? Thanks Yeah, that's definitely invading her space. If she wants space, give it to her. She'll probably not view the gift as a nice gesture but just as pressure you're putting on her. You can do nothing wrong by doing nothing at all! Link to comment
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