the_unsure_one Posted January 1, 2011 Share Posted January 1, 2011 Hello all and Happy New Year! Here is the background: I met this girl through an online dating service that does not "show" status like, "single", "divorced" etc. We've talked on the phone a few times and really seem to be hitting it off... I am a divorced Catholic, with an annulment from the Church. I have a nine year old son as well, who lives with his mother. All that said, I now find myself really liking this woman, and would love to get to know her better, develop a relationship....but I feel compelled to tell her about my past. I don't know about her, but she is 35, and as far as I know never been married. She is Catholic too, and like me, is very close to her faith. Not saying this would be the end-state here, but if we both got that far, we'd certainly celebrate marriage in the Catholic Church. How should I tell her about my past? Should I simply tell her on the phone? I am free to marry in the Catholic Church again, but have this what I feel to be a "black mark" on my record. I am not ashamed of my son or my past, and frankly my EX simply "left" to get "her life back" there was no infidelity, etc... I am an upstanding man, I believe in honesty and am proud of my integrity, etc. I simply don't want to affront her, or NOT tell her, I am just very nervous about it all... Thoughts? I'd appreciate any other comments, but particularly from Catholics if you are out there! Yes I know the divorce stats at about 50-55%... Thanks! USO (Un-Sure_one) Link to comment
GotMyLifeBack Posted January 1, 2011 Share Posted January 1, 2011 How about this? ____________, I'm not sure if it matters to you, but I'd like to tell you more about myself. [Then tell her]. She'll accept you, or not, and you will have continued to be an upstanding man. Link to comment
IsThisIt Posted January 1, 2011 Share Posted January 1, 2011 you are getting way ahead of yourself. Go on a few dates, then bring it up after you are comfortable with each other and after she has started sharing similar things with you. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted January 1, 2011 Share Posted January 1, 2011 I agree with the above. There is no need to bring up your past until when and if, this develops into more than a few dates, and has the potential of moving forward. Link to comment
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