seeing someone v's boyfriend/girlfriend

[tigress77]

Hi All,

I am a little confused.

What's the difference between saying you are seeing someone and saying you have a boyfriend/girlfriend.

 

I asked this guy if he had a girlfriend and he responded back by saying that he is seeing someone. What is the difference if any?

 

 

Thanks

[lady00]

i don't think there's any difference.

[Scout]

It means he considers her his girlfriend - at least enough to tell you he's seeing "Someone" - not just seeing people from time to time.

[tigress77]

He has had a girlfriend in the past in which he has said was his "girfriend", but he has never said to me that he is "seeing someone"

[Lily04]

I was wondering the same thing, and I think the replies are right..they're basically the same thing. I always thought 'girlfriend' was sorta reserved for if you've been seeing the person for a while, i.e. not just one/two dates, but some may use it more freely than others. When you just start a relationship I think the person would use 'seeing someone' or 'we're just dating' but after awhile when you know the person better & the relationship develops, 'girlfriend' seems to develop as well.

 

I was surprised yesterday when a friend asked the guy I'm dating if I'm his 'new girlfriend' and he sorta hesitated for a second before responding 'yes' and hugging me which I thought was cute. But just a day or 2 before he referred to me as a 'friend'..such silly terms =)

 

I'm guessing if he's insisting on saying 'seeing someone' it probably means that he just started dating her (like a few days ago maybe) and is reluctant to call her his gf yet, or isn't sure how she feels about him yet. That's why I was hesistant to call him my boyfriend anyways in the beginning.

[tiger_lilies]

Well for me, I think that 'seeing someone' is when you are not exclusively together. Meaning that you can 'see' more than one person, such as dating.

 

The term girlfriend, is when both people are not involved with anybody else.

[tigress77]

Sparrow, I think you might be right.

I think the term "seeing someone" is used at the beginning of a relationship when your not quite sure, or used by people who date several others or if the relationship isn't serious

[Beec]

It can mean a number of things, from her being a girlfirend to her being the person he dates but it is not necessarily exclusive to even something else.

[AzurePhoenix]

I have to agree with Tiger_Lilies. The difference is a level of commitment of exclusivity.

 

Companion: A situational lover. Such as a couple that "hook up" for a few days and during this time they are together, but after the time period are "good friends" and may or may not date.

 

Seeing someone.. is more casual.. a new relationship which is a polite way of saying "lover". Not a commited relationship or even well defined.

 

Girlfriend A comitted usually monogomous relationship.

 

Fiancee - A girlfriend with a stronger commitment to marry.

 

~AzurePhoenix