Performance anxiety

[DateAndConfuse]

I am 24 and I have had sex before when I was with my GF of 3 years. Sex that was always fun and great, but over the last couple of years I have tried to have some "fun" with a few different women and I have a problem getting or keeping an erection. I think my problem is that I am just thinking way too much.

 

Has anyone else had this problem? What are some ways to "shut up my brain" so I can just relax and have some fun?

 

Thanks for any advice

[thekid55]

I am 24 and I have had sex before when I was with my GF of 3 years. Sex that was always fun and great, but over the last couple of years I have tried to have some "fun" with a few different women and I have a problem getting or keeping an erection. I think my problem is that I am just thinking way too much.

 

Has anyone else had this problem? What are some ways to "shut up my brain" so I can just relax and have some fun?

 

Thanks for any advice

 

Ironically, think about something other than sex when you are having sex. For me, sometimes I think about sports or try to recite statistics in order to keep going. Obviously, you'll still think about sex, but it'll help you calm down.

[DateAndConfuse]

Strangly I think that might work. Maybe I will just memorize a song or something. I believe that if I can just have sex once without the anxiety problem that it will be much easier after that.

 

Thanks, I will try that

[mirrorman]

Could it be you're not completely over your last GF? I've run into similar issues because of that.

[DateAndConfuse]

No I am pretty sure I am over her. I can sometimes go weeks and months without thinking about her, and when I do it is usually because I see a picture of mutual friends with her in them on facebook. She has had a child and boyfriends since and I have no jealousy or any feelings about it