Would you think it was out of line if your friend did this?

[LightbulbSun]

My neighbor/friend had a grocery bag filled with something and a note, I guess from his girlfriend (since she was the last person here.) It was hanging on the outside door of my apartment building, which was locked.

 

As a friend, I didn't want to leave it there. I did not read the note, or look in the bag! However, I left it on the floor outside his apartment, and knocked on his door.

 

Anyway, this might be me being paranoid, but do you think I stepped over some boundaries here? Should I have left the bag hanging on the door outside? I don't want him thinking I'm going through his private stuff (and I didn't), but I'm very concerned about what people think about me, so I'm worried that I might have broken some sort of social rule.

 

What do you think? Did I step over the line? Should I just pretend like nothing happened, or should I apologize to him?

[BellaDonna]

As a friend, I didn't want to leave it there. I did not read the note, or look in the bag! However, I left it on the floor outside his apartment, and knocked on his door.

 

 

That seems perfectly fine. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

I think you did a very neighbourly thing. That kind of thing happens all the time in my apartment building where people take in stuff and leave it outside the door of the person it is meant for.

[annie24]

That seems fine. People in my condo building do that all the time. We have an unlocked lobby (where people can leave stuff, packages....) but they can't get to the apartments. people leave me packages outside my door as well. that was nice of you.

[LightbulbSun]

That seems perfectly fine. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you.

 

Okay, that's good.

 

I just worry about coming off as creepy or a stalker. I know I'm neither one of those things, but I've been called weird before, so I tend to be paranoid about how I'm coming off to people.

[Lamour detruit]

Wow..I can't believe you did that. I think you should start thinking about moving out, because it is very likely your neighbor will not forgive you for this.

 

Kidding. You're fine, no problem at all..just a nice thing.

[tadams]

Personally, I would have done the same thing. I wouldn't want MY things left outside. Don't worry, I'm sure your friend won't be upset with you. He/she has no reason to be... Best wishes!

[preciousgirl82]

I wouldve done the same thing too. Guess we're just too nice for our own good. Dont worry. There was absolutely nothing wrong with what you did and if your neighbor thinks so he's a jerk.

[digger11]

I thought it was nice of you! the only people who would accuse you of someothing weird are weirdos themselves.

[Anotherday]

It's you being paranoid. You did a kind thing. I would suggest you get some counseling, however, if you continue to worry so much about what others think.

[LightbulbSun]

I've gotten counseling, anotherday.

 

One thing you probably don't know is that I have social anxiety. So I battle with this every day. Just today, I went to go pay a bill, and I thought a bunch of teenagers were laughing at me. This made me feel overly critical about my appearance (I hadn't shaved, and my hair was a mess, so was it me?)

 

It usually turns out that it's me being paranoid, because maybe the teenagers were laughing at something else. But I'm always living in fear of being judged.