ColdasHoth Posted May 26, 2010 Share Posted May 26, 2010 I am 23 and my husband is 31... and obviously we have been having some real issues, otherwise I wouldn't be on here lol Most of the issues at the moment are coming from my side simply because I don't feel that I love him anymore- I have tested this in many ways and keep coming back to the same conclusion. I don't want to be single, I want to be in love, I think I am a creature of love and need it in my life- and haven't had it in a long while... However my husband does love me or so I think. He tells me he does. And to be honest, he is the kind of guy I would want to raise a family with and settle down with- thereinliestheissue We were married when I was 2 months into being 21... 23 now- I'm not ready to settle down. He is... and I can't put him on the shelf and hope he stays there until I am ready. But even if I did want to settle down- I don't love him. I mean I deeply care for him and do love him but more in a "brother" or "father figure" type of way- like he is a member of my family, not my husband. I mean I know the honeymoon stage can't last forever, but I mean it's only been 2 years, wouldn't we still be in that stage? For a while I thought that my dulling feelings for him was just part of marriage- but I'm no longer physically attracted to him. Sex is a chore and I can't even close my eyes and picture someone else to get any kind of aroused... We are in the midst of seperating, the next step will be to finalize it on paper- but right now he wants to try again and I'm hesitant... because it's not fair to him to have a wife who does not return what he feels. Has anyone ever experienced this and recovered lost feelings of love and desire? Could this just be my age? The fact that I am young and going through self discovery that any relationship would have a hard time surviving. I know I'm looking for the answers to questions only I can answer but maybe advice will help... Link to comment
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