uj2004 Posted May 24, 2010 Share Posted May 24, 2010 When will I learn to stop allowing my ex to tear me up inside? If you want to look through my history, feel free. This all started in February 2009, when she left me. Started dating another guy that same week (first date on the same DAY she dumped me), and moved in with him after 4-6 weeks (we never lived together, were together for 2.5 years, and broken up but seeing eachother weekly for 10 months on top, so 3.5 years total.) I started complete No Contact in March '09. * She text messaged in April '09 (day 18 of NC), I ignored. * She emailed "I miss you" in July '09 (day 139 of NC), I replied the same 18 days later when I got it, and called a few days after that. The guy she is with found out about her sending the email, and blocked my email (so she can't receive from me) and read her the riot act apparently. * Nothing again until January 2010, then another "I miss you" email (day 308 of NC). I went up and saw her after this one, to hand her a birthday card (her email was 4 days before her birthday) and just to find out what was going on. She was still with him, although mentioned being unhappy and was close to moving back home with her folks. The catchup was pretty good, but I felt nothing for her physically, which was strange - Id never been unattracted to her until that day. I gave her my phone number, but she was very cagey about hers, and didn't want to reveal it, because of her douchbag guy and how he'd reacted in August to her email to me. Anyway, that day goes, and back to NC. Until last week, day 422 since I began No Contact. She sent me a text message (first one since April '09) saying it was her, and asking how I was. 3 more texts followed, she mentioned she was packing and was moving, probably back home. I replied to 3 of them, and left it alone after she mentioned she was probably moving back home. Anyway, to today, where I finally cracked and checked her facebook public profile (im not a friend, never accepted, and dont do the facebook thing anyway), to see she is still listed as being in a relationship with the loser. I feel like an idiot. I actually sent her a text tonight, 4 days on, to say it was nice hearing from her the other day. Had I known she was still with the other guy, I wouldn't have wasted my time. Its my birthday on Saturday, so I dunno what will happen there. Keep in mind any contact I have ever made with her since I started NC has just been replies to her. My questions? Why did she contact me, especially letting me know she is moving back home? Why did she give me her phone number, when she has clearly shown that she cannot let the boyfriend know she is having anything to do with me? Why break no contact 4 times if she doesn't want me in her life? Or does she? Im really confused. Help. Link to comment
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