friends over reacting much?

[tom1607307597]

I'm trying to get some ideas on why my friends always 'jump the gun' whenever I seem to like a new girl. Some recent examples:

 

- I was going to try the cold approach on this girl who works in a computer lab in a few days and last night they kept going on about how "omg tom is going to get a new girlfriend!". keep in my mind I don't know her name, haven't really talked to her, and this will be my first time asking her out.

 

- I was crushing on a girl (later it turned out i was overreacting) and they kept talking about if I was going to marry her and if I loved her. what?! ok, they were joking for the most part but still asking if I love a girl I'm crushing on or want to ask out is a bit too much.

 

Are they over reacting in situations like this or is this their way of joking around with me whenever I get a new love interest in my life?

[Clarity]

It's a way of joking around. We do this all the time to a couple of guys in our circle - it usually happens to guys who don't have much luck with the ladies. It's just meant as friendly teasing, not mean-spirited.

[RedDress]

There is a VERY easy solution to this problem... just don't tell people who you are going to ask out!

 

I have a similar issue in that every guy I date or introduce to friends and family... well... they think we are going to get married and have babies, etc. It's really sweet and all... but yeesh! Solution? I don't tell anyone. I don't introduce anyone. I simply date until I feel that it is getting kind of serious and THEN when the guy is itching to meet my family & friends, I just warn him about it. LOL! At first they don't believe... but then they meet them and they are suddenly believers. Haha...

 

They wouldn't bug you if they didn't love you. At least... that's what I tell myself.

[catfeeder]

They're your example of why it's a good idea to use discretion in what you tell people. Shhhhh.

[tom1607307597]

I guess I took what they were saying too seriously, but it kinda seemed immature of them to say something like that. Next time there's a girl I like I just won't tell them anything.

[eggplant47]

Hmmmm... I find it very interesting to find that guys act this way too! I'm wondering- are most of these friends married/in long term status? If so, maybe they're just excited for you to join the club!

[tom1607307597]

Lol all of us are single as can be. That could be the case though, maybe they're excited 1 of the 4 of us is actually making steps towards getting a girlfriend.