If you literally SEE each other, is it still NC?

[Civic204]

I've been NC with my ex for about a month now. We work out at the same gym too, so we're bound to have a few run-ins. Today, I saw her from a distance, and I have no doubt that she also saw me. If you see each other, is it still considered NC? Or does this set me back a month now?

[TheJerseyKid]

If you have 0 interaction, which it appears is your case, I'd say it still counts. All that matters is you are healing, if you still feel the same, then you're good.

[Civic204]

Yeah we had zero interaction. I still feel the same, but lately I've been thinking about her a lot for some reason.

[jessica911]

i want to know that answer too.

 

i work with my ex too, and we HAVE to talk and work together, but sometimes it feels the same (while we date) and sometimes it's just co-worker. weird.

[epson391]

I saw my ex that i have been NC with for 7 weeks and she made it obvious that she couldnt handle leaving me. lol she couldnt even look at me it was great! then 20 mins later I got a text message from her saying she wanted to talk.

[TSandullo]

There are no definitive rules for NC.

 

A majority of the rules that exists are primarily strong recommendations and suggestions made by individuals since time unwritten I believe.

 

Hence I guess if you maid passionate love to someone in darkness, not knowing who it was only to discover it was your ex...that could still be considered NC...

 

TS

[fLuiD]

If you didn't speak, or had any other interaction, then no, it should be fine. If you are somehow keeping track of your days of NC, it wouldn't be a bad idea to briefly reflect on the whole seeing her experience. Write down the date you saw her and how you felt then and how you feel now.

 

There are no definitive rules for NC.

 

A majority of the rules that exists are primarily strong recommendations and suggestions made by individuals since time unwritten I believe.

 

Hence I guess if you maid passionate love to someone in darkness, not knowing who it was only to discover it was your ex...that could still be considered NC...

 

TS

 

There is A LOT of contact during sex, if you know what I mean.