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Should I tell him about my exs


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after a week of talking, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I really don't know why since he doesn't know me well enough. I really want to be straight and honest with him so that we don't waste each others time. I really want to tell him about my past relationships (I was going to marry one guy and I dated my coworker) so that he understands where I'm coming from and why I'm scared of opening my heart again. Should I tell him about my past? Do guys like hearing about girls exs?

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usually you don't have these kinds of conversations until you've been in the relationship for a few weeks...I mean...you have to know if you're going to connect with this guy before you start spilling your guts out on all your past relationships.

 

Have a few dates...if the opportunity arises and you want to tell him, tell him. But I don't think it's necessary to tell him right out of the gate.

 

All the best...

 

~Allie

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I don't think you should spill all your secrets just yet. Like someone else posted, you have no idea if this person and you are going to connect, and sometimes by telling a new partner about past relationships can make it fairly awkward if the other person really had no interest.

 

I asked about my boyfriends ex girlfriends a few weeks after we started dating because I actually started to like him. Before I had no interest in getting that heavy. At some point, it is important to talk about ex's - just because to me... it's like a report card. You know, did he cheat? Did she cheat? Did he ever get the cops called on him? Did they live together? You can tell a lot about a person by the type of people they date. So, just hang on first and see where it'll go.

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If you are not ready to be his girlfriend I don't think you need to justify that by going into the reasons why you are scared to "open your heart." I would start with, "It's only been a week and I'd like us to get to know each other better."

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The right time may come and if he doesn't ask than he probably doesn't care. I would just let the time tell, no need to push more information than needed.

 

I agree with sidehop. Plus - you spill everything now and he's going to think you're showing off or bragging or something.

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