Would you date a chick that's already dating someone else?

[JDMxTeGrA101]

Would you guys date a chick that's already dating someone else? This guy known this chick longer than I have but I was dating her first and then it felt like I was chasing her because I was always the one initiating contact so I gave up and see if she would text me. Didn't speak to her for a few weeks then she invites me to her party last weekend. I brought a few friends and had fun. She was all over me that night macking out and cuddling. Then suddenly that guy she's dating shows up to take care of her while she was puking as she was really drunk so me and my friends just leave. I get a text from her the next day saying shes sorry and that the other guy thinks she's dating both of us now. I told her I'm not going to interrupt they're relationship together and I liked her alot. She told me that I didn't put enough effort into her and had no clue I even liked her. (I was the one chasing her when we were dating and didn't want to seem needy so I stopped and waited for her to initiate contact but that didn't happen until the invite).

 

*Sigh* I really miss her.

[LAYAAN]

I guess so,

- if she makes it clear to you that she is dating someone

- if she makes it clear to you that she is not dating the other guy exclusively

 

People date multiple people at the same time. Its not something unknown.

[JDMxTeGrA101]

It seems like she liked me I guess but I just didn't put much effort but to me I don't really initiate contact all the time unless the chick initiates it a few times. I just don't get why she invited me to her party and was all over me and then she called that guy over there. It sort of pissed me off

[Shallow]

No.

 

That's all I have to say about that.

[JDMxTeGrA101]

^I'm assuming to save yourself from a bigger headache eh? I can't get her off my mind.

[Dako]

No.

I'd rather date someone without baggage, especially bags with marbles.

[guynextdoor]

Just be yourself brah. Don't try to go all out to impress and win her. If the other guy wants to put her on a pedestal and impress her then she'll be in for a little surprise when he drops the act of winning her over. Be genuine man and if she digs you then its all good, if not her loss.

[Shallow]

It is a headache, for me anyway. If I'm seeing someone, I'm giving them all of my attention, not splitting it 2, 3, 10 ways. I expect the same in return. People who "play the field", as it were, are indecisive. Therefore, I feel it's my duty to help them make a decision by showing them (or myself) the door.

[Mauxly]

Nope.

Probably wouldn't date a guy who called women chicks though.

Not to get too pc on you, but being called a chick is a bit de-humanizing. You probably just didn't know though.

[rustyschackelf]

Sounds like this girl is a waste of time.

[JDMxTeGrA101]

Sorry to offend you. I usually call women chicks online but in person I say lady/woman.

[Creative]

Sounds like she's trouble.

 

Usually those who dates multiple people NEVER let the dates a chance to meet one another.

 

She's using one of you to make the other guy jealous.

 

 

You should get out.

[JDMxTeGrA101]

Yeah I got out of it but at the same time it hurts me because she got me falling for her

[Nomadic Intent]

Good.

 

I say this it may hurt now, but imagine if it was much later when everything would be deeper and more emotionally scarring?

 

Plus, if she's dating you when she's with somebody else, what's to stop her from dating somebody else when she's with you?

 

Personally, i can't trust a person like that.

[goodfoot]

You shouldn't date her; she's obviously a drama queen.

[JDMxTeGrA101]

Yes she is. Even her own friends said she loves drama and attention. I am friends with 2 of her friends by the way.

[Green Mile]

At this stage I'd settle for it!

[JDMxTeGrA101]

What do you mean settle for it?

[Green Mile]

Settle for a girl that's dating someone else if she wanted to date me too - in my position anyway!