I dont want to feel like this

[benirwin1607306451]

Hi all, i know i have left some messages on other posts here but now I need some help.

My fiancee of nearly 5 years told me last week that she didnt love me anymore, and didnt want to be with me. I cant figure out why, only the week before she was always telling me how much she loved me and how looking forward to us getting our first home, getting married and having children.

She has ripped my heart to shreds, i cant eat, i cant sleep, i dont know what to do. The only thing i can do is try and get on with life and not to let her see or hear about me being upset.

Some days i am ok, but others like late yesterday i was at home on my own and it hit me i was on my own. Someone please give some advice on what to do now.

[SwingFox]

Hi benirwin,

 

I am so sorry to read what happened to you. It is very strange that after five years she breaks up like this. The first thing I would do when I'd be in your shoes is to talk to her and ask her in detail what happened and why she broke up with you all of this sudden. I think that after five years you deserve that much. Her telling you exactly what happened will definitely help you in your healing process.

 

Besides that there's not much more you can do. I would start a healing process. Talking to her about getting her back is not going to do any good, I think. However, you might still want to try, so that YOU know that at least you tried everything.

 

I wish you strength and good luck the coming period. I hope that your wounds will heal soon.

 

~ SwingFox ~

[Roadmind]

Hi,

 

One thing that stands out in your post is the surprise of your fiancee telling you it's over. Communication between the two of you is not what it should be. If you do not have a clue why she would break up, then the two of you do not know each other emotionally. The relationship appears superficial in some regards, and perhaps the hope of having a life together filled some void in your fiancee. That hope has disappeared and someone needs to find out why.

 

Couples therapy may be of help that is both of you are willing to explore the truthful feelings that are inside.

 

You are hurting from a very significant loss, it is time to get support.

 

Wishing you the very best in this very difficult situation.

[benirwin1607306451]

Hi there, thanks for replying. I have tried to talk to her but she is not the most descriptive or emotional person so is not telling me anything. All she keeps saying is she want to be on her own.

At xmas she got promoted and was given a huge 50% pay rise and its since then she had acted a little strange, but never stopped loving me.