Need advice if he is just too busy or just not that into me??

[kodak]

In the past he has. I just feel his affection for me is fading fast. After 4 months and the way he is acting do I have to make a big deal about it and tell him face to face that I don't want this anymore? Is it ok for me to tell him on the phone that it isn't working out for me? He lives 45 minutes away.

 

I guess you could tell him your concerns on the phone, and simply listen to what he has to say. And then don't do anything, just get off the phone and think about it, see how it resonates, etc. Then decide what to do next. How does that feel to you?

[BriarRose]

I think at this point it's probably pointless. He's made it very clear, both in words and actions, that he's not invested in this relationship with you. And even if he were, he's having a borderline emotional affair with this other girl. If you want to talk to him about it, go for it, but my bet would be that he'll get defensive and you'll gain no new information.

 

I'd tell him that it's just not working and cut ties.

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