Broke NC and feel great

[jimbobday]

Well I know they say to not break NC but after 9 days I broke NC. Not a single reply to my txt/call and I feel the best I have done since we broke up (a month ago). I think its given me some closure in the fact that she doesn't even care enough to reply to me.

 

Has anyone else had this before?

[newinvention]

I kinda did, but (and not to be neg) it creeps back in... I've found that moments like that for me, are short-lived.

 

I'm glad I broke NC, but really do know now that there is nothing more for me to say or do and that it is in my best interest to not do it again going forward.

 

Wish you the best...

[OptomisticGirl]

I wish I had the guts to call or ask if there was another chance. I'm afraid too.

 

Strong moments are short lived too for me too. One day they will last for hours, and eventually days and then forever.. but right now, I am on a hour by hour emotional roller coaster.

[SULLY323]

I couldn't stop myself... I sent a LONG email last night. No reply yet, which is driving me crazy! But then again, I already think I've gone crazy. I don't know what I really expected anyway.....

[newinvention]

My ex responded rapid-fire to my letter. She replied, texted, and called... but it was all about making herself feel better and had nothing to do with us or me. This was very telling for me... It's hard when you learn more about who your partner really was/is after the breakup.

[jimbobday]

I'm glad I did to. Its finally given me the closure I needed (as the last thing my ex said to me was she loved me so much and that she just wanted us to be together but she can't see it working). It does make it so much easier knowing they were all lies.

 

OptomisticGirl - I don't know your back story so can't really comment but I know when my ex came back last time and asked for another chance it wasn't till I had almost moved on. It does get easier though I am now down to thinking about her once a minute (from 10 times a minute) and a month ago I couldn't go for more than 4 hours without contacting her.

 

SULLY323 - I think by the sounds of things you need to go NC at least for a while to let yourself heal. I know I begged and pleaded for her to come back (Even though I was the dumper) and it only made things a lot worse. Its hard to start off with but it does become easier.

 

I'm sorry to hear that DaveReInvented it does make things harder when they are replying

[OptomisticGirl]

When she came back last time, did you dump her or did she dump you?

[jimbobday]

I dumped her both this time and last time. Both because she was being really distant. The only difference between this time and last was that I begged for her back this time (Which is probably the biggest mistake I could have made).