relationship ended after 7 years

[Dee24]

Hello,

 

I have been going through a lot since my Break up and need advice badly. Here is what happen.. My Ex and I were together for 7 years. I admit it was not the best relationship but I guess there is no such thing anyhow..near the end things got bad and we decided it would be best to have some time apart. So I moved out of the state to stay with family for a while. We did not talk for a while then he IMed me and said he want to talk to me...he said he wanted to have a open relationship ...which surprised me because it was so out of the blue. I asked why that was and if he was already seeing someone else. The only thing he said was maybe, well I did not hear from him for a few days. He IMed again saying he just wanted to be friends now. I was devestated since I thought our seperation was only a temp thing. Well come to find out he had found someone and has been spending every night at her house(and IMing me from there too) So a few night ago he IMed to say that his relationship was not working out and he was going to end it ...also that he missed me. The next day he did not end it so I had enough and I IMed his new G/F and told her what he had been saying but she did not seem to believe me and told me to stay out of there relationship and things I cant say on here. I explained He was the on IMing me not the other way around, so she said she would take care of it but once again he IMed saying he loves me...and I am just tired of the games. I do love him..I mean after 7 years how could I not but now he is playing on that...I dont know what to do. Every time he says he loves me and wants to work things out I get hope ....but am I just kidding myself? Please Help!!

[sachat]

I understand why you seem confused. Your exbf dont seem to know what he wants, i mean this not clear, maybe you should have a conversation with him about what he wanttss and what is going on with that other girl. I know this is hard, but maybe you should give youselves some time apart, so you could think about what you want.

[sachat]

I understand why you seem confused. Your exbf dont seem to know what he wants, i mean this not clear, maybe you should have a conversation with him about what he wanttss and what is going on with that other girl. I know this is hard, but maybe you should give youselves some time apart, so you could think about what you want.

[Dee24]

My Ex admits he is confused and that is why he says he wants to be friends right now but he still IMs almost every day saying he misses me and loves me...that is what confuses me

[medtranusa]

Oh man that is a tough one. My ex broke up with me after 9 years and a new girlfriend only we lived together, were engaged, and he moved her in as soon as a left a couple months after breaking up. He actually ended it with me 2 weeks after meeting her. He constantly gave me mixed signals and called me about a month ago because they were going to break up. They decided to give things another try so he chose her twice over me. He was going to keep calling me but after going back and forth about and my telling him that he messed me up after I was doing fine without him, he doesn't call anymore. I suggest maybe you tell him to contact you when things are really over with the other girl instead of keeping all his options open. I got caught in a situation with the new woman as well and even though he was calling me I got all the blame. So don't get caught in the triangle. It will just give him a big head and the new woman always thinks things will be different with her. I guess part of the thrill with a new woman is just that, she is new, a new toy, new body, etc. I'm sorry you are having to go through this. I know I am still battling the depression with my situation and I know I am better than I was. It still hurts me to the bone. PM me if you want to anytime.