Zerohero Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 Hi Zerohero, thanks for your input. (Is that a photo of Jackie Chan? ) He doesn't know my intentions yet (I will have to speak to him soon). So let's say he was iffy about it, do you think I will be wasting my time? Or do guys sometimes put on that front in the beginning to show a girl that he refuses to be seen as a pushover? If my ex did that yes I would be iffy. Not only because I dont want to be seen as a push over, but because If she left me before, whats stopping her from leaving me for another guy or insert "x" reason. You'd really have to assure him that you want him because you love him, enjoy spending time with him, willing to work , and fix issues etc. Link to comment
useruser Posted October 20, 2009 Author Share Posted October 20, 2009 If my ex did that yes I would be iffy. Not only because I dont want to be seen as a push over, but because If she left me before, whats stopping her from leaving me for another guy or insert "x" reason. You'd really have to assure him that you want him because you love him, enjoy spending time with him, willing to work , and fix issues etc. Got you If you loved her, would you be ACTING iffy, or BEING iffy, or not showing either trait? Link to comment
butterfly0424 Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 "I really wish we could try again, give me a call sometime" ball is in his court. he knows you're interested. he can call you or not. what's wrong with that? bonus points if his current gf finds the text and calls you yelling and screaming to leave her man alone. This made me chuckle. I sent my ex an email about tax information. At the end I wrote "love ya". He didn't call me for 2 days. When he finally called I was so nervous. He told me her new girl saw it and got upset. I told him I was just letting him know how I felt. Link to comment
Zerohero Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 Got you If you loved her, would you be ACTING iffy, or BEING iffy, or not showing either trait? I wouldn't be too quick to jump back. I'd show interest but not quick to "take the bait". Because again, she left me for someone else, the trust has been broken. She needs to rebuild it. Link to comment
useruser Posted October 20, 2009 Author Share Posted October 20, 2009 I wouldn't be too quick to jump back. I'd show interest but not quick to "take the bait". Because again, she left me for someone else, the trust has been broken. She needs to rebuild it. I didn't leave him for someone else It's comforting though to know what you said. You would act that way even if you loved her. Even though this guy doesn't know my intentions right now, I think he has been acting the way he has been lately to show that he won't be too quick to take the bait as a form of emotional punishment from the hurt I caused him (because I wanted a small break). Link to comment
Zerohero Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 I didn't leave him for someone else It's comforting though to know what you said. You would act that way even if you loved her. Even though this guy doesn't know my intentions right now, I think he has been acting the way he has been lately to show that he won't be too quick to take the bait as a form of emotional punishment from the hurt I caused him (because I wanted a small break). I say, sit down, talk to him, and be upfront. I'm a guy, and we'd rather have a female tell us things like that strait forward instead of trying to read their minds. Link to comment
Theblueman123 Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 I say, sit down, talk to him, and be upfront. I'm a guy, and we'd rather have a female tell us things like that strait forward instead of trying to read their minds. Yep. First sign I get off a woman who wants me to "read her mind", I stop pursuing her instantly. I don't do stupid. Link to comment
useruser Posted October 20, 2009 Author Share Posted October 20, 2009 Yep. First sign I get off a woman who wants me to "read her mind", I stop pursuing her instantly. I don't do stupid. It's not so much that some females want men to read their minds. Sometimes we think we are giving obvious cues to the guy and expressing ourselves in different ways. But I suppose men need more concrete expressions. Link to comment
Zerohero Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 It's not so much that some females want men to read their minds. Sometimes we think we are giving obvious cues to the guy and expressing ourselves in different ways. But I suppose men need more concrete expressions. image removed Keep this in mind when talking to guys. Link to comment
Tigerfan Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 image removed Keep this in mind when talking to guys. LOL. That is perfect and SO true! Link to comment
useruser Posted October 20, 2009 Author Share Posted October 20, 2009 image removed Keep this in mind when talking to guys. Hahaha! Thanks for that! I will try to walk and talk like a man Link to comment
HeartBrokn Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 What are the chances of men ending a new relationship if his ex girlfriend who left him wanted to get back with him? That’s a weird question, I am sorry. You are asking us; what your chances in getting your ex back after he became involved with another girl. First, you had your chance. I mean why would you try to ruin another relationship just because of your selfish needs? Ok let me back up, I know that all sounded harsh, and I don't mean to attack you like that but you really need to ask yourself, why would you try to hurt other people just because of a missed opportunity? If anything, if he is with that girl for the wrong reasons (i.e. to make you jealous, to get his jollies off) than maybe you can go up to him and tell him how you feel about him, and leave it up to destiny. But I would not try to steal. You know stealing is bad. And I know, I know all is fair in love and war but what goes around comes around. Good Luck Link to comment
useruser Posted October 20, 2009 Author Share Posted October 20, 2009 I agree, I wouldn't want to cause the new girl pain. That is why I mentioned before that this causes some problem for me to tell the guy how I feel. If he does bring up this topic, that is when I will tell him. I think that is what I should do. Link to comment
BOXINGKANGAROO Posted October 21, 2009 Share Posted October 21, 2009 Hey it all depends on how much he wanted back in....i would go back if i still loved her and thought we could make it work...but that all depends on what was wrong and is it fixed...we can change i know this to be true .. Good luck Link to comment
Lucius Posted October 21, 2009 Share Posted October 21, 2009 What are the chances of men ending a new relationship if his ex girlfriend who left him wanted to get back with him? There's almost no chance I would leave a new relationship for someone who, for whatever reason, had decided to dump me once already. I tend to think that exes are exes for a reason - and I tend to like people who know what they want, and who try to make it work (as opposed to wanting to end it, then wanting to rekindle it, etc, etc). I'd be particularly leery of entertaining an ex who, miraculously, wanted to get back with me only now that I was with someone else. But, like all things, context does matter. The reason for it ending would matter - just as her reasons for wanting to get back together would matter. In other words: it's conceivable that I might be willing to try again, but very unlikely. Link to comment
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