firstlove Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 I have a thread which called "I believed in first love" in "Getting Back Together" but today I decided to move my thread here. I guess after my ex moved and through 11 days of NC so far, I feel more empower and happy being on my own. Now, I don't want to focus on getting him back, instead, I want to heal properly and truly being happy internally. Right now, I feel I can live without him. I don't think there is a possibility being back with him. In the future, if he still thinks about me, then that is fine. If not, then I have to say "I can move on and Mr. Right will be out there". What am I doing today? I guess I will try ballroom dancing with my friends, hang out with my family, and study study. Goal- not to think about him. If I do, then I will try to block the thoughts away. I can do it. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 You can! You sound like your doing well. Keep busy and know there will be tough times ahead still but you deserve more and will be fine. Link to comment
Lillyk Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 I am trying to recover from my first love too. It's been almost 4 months since we broke up but only 7 days of NC. We can do it! Link to comment
pace of ace Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 Great thread, you have my best wishes. Very positive thread, looking the facts straight in the eye. Good luck to you. Link to comment
TBE_1989 Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 After a year, i can safely say I am over my first love ANNND, I think he might even want me back! Haha! Things will get better, look back at my threads and how devastated I was. Now I'm really happy with my life. I'm still single, but that's ok. Everything else is great in my life and I am prove you CAN get over your first love. Keep busy and positive with minimal/no contact with your ex. Over time, you will be FINE! Link to comment
Lonewing Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 Last night was a fiasco of grand proportions. I'm in good hands now, though, and feeling so much better. A report will come later. Link to comment
firstlove Posted September 12, 2009 Author Share Posted September 12, 2009 I am trying to recover from my first love too. It's been almost 4 months since we broke up but only 7 days of NC. We can do it! Yes we can. It has been about 4 months for me. Me and my ex broke up at the end of May. Link to comment
firstlove Posted September 12, 2009 Author Share Posted September 12, 2009 I don't need him. Not even for a minute. I want to say to him "I am sorry but I am not in love with you" Link to comment
intolerable Posted September 13, 2009 Share Posted September 13, 2009 Oh wow, same here. Although with me we've been broken up for quite a time now. For me, it's practically impossible not to think of him, but I'm getting better as each day passes. He's not my priority anymore. Link to comment
ebik Posted September 13, 2009 Share Posted September 13, 2009 your doing the right thing! well done! all the best! Link to comment
CB4RH Posted September 13, 2009 Share Posted September 13, 2009 my first love cheated on me and gave me the whole "i love you so much, but im just not in love with you anymore", less than a week ago! Needless to say, we are probably all feeling the same thing. KEEP THOSE CHINS UP! Link to comment
firstlove Posted September 13, 2009 Author Share Posted September 13, 2009 my first love cheated on me and gave me the whole "i love you so much, but im just not in love with you anymore", less than a week ago! Needless to say, we are probably all feeling the same thing. KEEP THOSE CHINS UP! The only way to keep your chin up is through NC. 12 days of NC. My ex was in my dream last night but I didn't feel anything after I woke up. I remember we had a fight one time and I was so heartbroken that I just sat there without a word being spoken. He sat next to me and out of no where took my hand and said "why do you give me so many chances?" I didn't reply but in my heart the answer would be "because I love you". Now after going through a lot. My heart has closed on him and there is no more chances. I feel that I am happier without him. No more crying and mopping in my room because he didn't seem to care or because he just canceled our plans. I am also happier because there is no one to pressure me to change into someone that fits into his category. There is no one that tell me that I acted wrong. Now, I can be "ME" and that is the best person I want to be. I am proud to be me. Good bye my first love. NC- 12. Link to comment
firstlove Posted September 14, 2009 Author Share Posted September 14, 2009 NC- 13 The lucky number. Link to comment
Talus Posted September 14, 2009 Share Posted September 14, 2009 Am trying to recover from a breakup with my first love. Only different circumstances; this break up had to happen, but neither of us wanted it. We both said we weren't gonna shut the door on being together, but it's something that really just cannot happen for a few years. So we broke up. Both of us are as heartbroken and depressed as the other about it... But, NC for the last few weeks. I feel your pain mate. It's something I'm sure neither of us could imagine before we actually fell in love, and then lost it. This is just like a massive speed bump, our lives slow down until we get past it, and let's face it, speed bumps are a pain in the * * * * . Link to comment
firstlove Posted September 14, 2009 Author Share Posted September 14, 2009 The pain of losing someone u loved is unbearable and only time can heal it. Today- I learned to believe. Believe in yourself and believe in life possibilities. Life is full of chances. Today- I finally chose to believe. Link to comment
firstlove Posted September 15, 2009 Author Share Posted September 15, 2009 NC-14. Still doing great but could have done better. Link to comment
firstlove Posted September 15, 2009 Author Share Posted September 15, 2009 I still think about him and it hurts still. My cousin asked me if I still talk to him... Link to comment
firstlove Posted September 16, 2009 Author Share Posted September 16, 2009 Not a good day. Link to comment
Lonewing Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 I'm so sorry. It's been a rough day for me too. But I got through. I talked with an old friend last night and that was good. And my sister-in-law has been showing me what real women do in a loving relationship with a loving family. end result: She was only specail becasue I loved her, so I will find someone more becasue I am still alive and I am still love and it is she who is the man-eater. Link to comment
joiboi Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 thats a good attitude! Link to comment
firstlove Posted September 16, 2009 Author Share Posted September 16, 2009 a mild relapse...what to do or think plz give me some insights. Link to comment
firstlove Posted September 16, 2009 Author Share Posted September 16, 2009 15 days of NC. I have gone far. I guess it's time for a relapse. Can't ride on smooth waves for too long. I don't get why we love. What is the point of it? Link to comment
arsenic_n_lace Posted September 16, 2009 Share Posted September 16, 2009 I'm trying to get over my first love too! It's so hard but we can do it! It's been six months for me and i'm doing a lot better now, i'm trying not to think of him so much but it's definitely harder when i see him often (we live in a small town) He'll try and contact me every once in a while and that totally screws with my head but if he tries again i'm not going to let him! Because i deserve better and so do you! Try your best to not slip up and contact him, trust me you'll probably end up regretting it later. I know this sounds harsh but the way i like to see it is if he isn't contacting you then he obviously doesn't want to talk to you and why would you want to talk to someone who doesn't want to talk to you? I don't know that helps me at least. Just think of your ex as a puzzle piece that didn't quite fit, it takes time but one day you'll find one that fits perfectly! Link to comment
firstlove Posted September 17, 2009 Author Share Posted September 17, 2009 15 days of NC and now having a relapse........... it sucks. I feel so low throughout the whole day. Link to comment
firstlove Posted September 17, 2009 Author Share Posted September 17, 2009 Moving toward my 16 days of NC and I realize that he will never come back. He is gone. Almost 4 months of breakup. This is my third time attempting NC and it has been 16 days. I am trying to erase him from my mind and live life with no regrets. I have been regretting too much over the lost love. Like others in here, I kick myself in the butt for all the mistakes that I had done. It lowered my self-esteem greatly. Link to comment
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