unusual question from a date? need opinions

[psychokat]

I'm fairly new to online dating. And I've been on two first dates recently that I met on an online dating service. Nice guys, but in the context of our conversations they both asked how long of a subscription did I buy for the service? And how often do I check my profile?

 

Me being an honest person, I said 3 months, explaining that it made sense price wise. And I said I check it whenever I need to/every couple of days. I stopped myself from going into detail of "well basically whenever I get notified of a message via my yahoo email." They both gave me a "huh" response, like "oh, I'm disappointed to hear that" response.

 

Anyway my question is...why would they ask such a thing? I mean we both know we're online dating - it's clear we both using a dating service and it takes effort to find people. Perhaps, my question more to the point - in your experience is this a sign of insecurity? It seems to me that it's a silly question to ask on a first date and I'm left wondering if its a sign of someone who lacks confidence or maybe something else I can't put my finger on...Or should I not read into it and its par for the course in online dating.

 

Thanks in advance for your input.

[Laura11111]

Hey there,

Yeah...those are definitely strange questions to ask. I don't understand their reactions either. Why would they be dissappointed to hear that?

I've met quite a few people online and have never been asked how often I check my messages. I have had a number of dates where we've talked about the online dating experience but it's just been for conversation.

Hmmm...strange.

[annie24]

yeah, those are strange questions! i've never had a man ask me those on a date. i've had them casually inquire how the dating site is going (i think they are trying to ask if i am dating someone more special than the rest....)

[hers]

I think they'd say they're disappointed b/c it may seem like you let the guys do all the work--instead of writing guys first, you wait for guys to write you. Just my thought on it.

[jul-els]

Sounds like they're either desperate, childish, or both.

[flash83]

i only bring up talk about the online dating website if i am not interested in the person and just want to get a girl's take on it. this is because there isn't really much to talk about or i don't feel the chemistry.