dirtyd Posted August 26, 2009 Share Posted August 26, 2009 Hey there I'm a 30 year old guy dating a 20 year old girl. We've known each other over a year and have been in a relationship for over six months. I dunno is it normal to have to walk on eggshells with everything you say. I mean I'm usually a clown. Today we meet her friend at college and her friend asked " Do I look * * * * ty today? Because she was getting a lot of rude stares?" I said "no it's just your boobs." Actually when you first turned the corner that's all I saw." Now I can see how a girl can get upset with something of the sort, but I'm use to joking around in such a way. So after I walk my girl to class she let's me have it. Just wondering if I should just keep my trap shut from now on or is it just because she's younger that she gets upset at a comment like that. Link to comment
DaBladeRoden Posted August 26, 2009 Share Posted August 26, 2009 Some people are like Tom Cruise in A Few Good Men. They want the truth, but they can't handle the truth. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted August 26, 2009 Share Posted August 26, 2009 Well her friend DID ask! I'd prefer my bf didnt make a comment on my friends boobs though I would have just said 'Of course not' your reply could be funny or just rude depending on your girlfriends sense of humour. Maybe she was just jealous? Was a teeny bit over the line on what to say to gf's friends. how do you mean walking on eggshells? As in she doesnt find your jokes funny? Link to comment
dirtyd Posted August 26, 2009 Author Share Posted August 26, 2009 well i don't know Blue? Sometimes i feel I come accross maturity issues like confidence. I mean my girl is a bombshell and her friend doesn't even come close, but she does tend to get extremely jealous. I just feel a disaster will arise if straight up say "Hey stop acting your age!" lol. Link to comment
guynextdoor Posted August 26, 2009 Share Posted August 26, 2009 I would've played it off and pretend I didn't notice. I'm sure your girl got a little ticked for you checkin out your friends fun bags. Link to comment
xJessibel Posted August 26, 2009 Share Posted August 26, 2009 I think making a comment about your gf's friend's boobs was over the line. Joking or not, I wouldn't want my guy joking about my friend's anatomy. Link to comment
dirtyd Posted August 26, 2009 Author Share Posted August 26, 2009 Well i was being sarcastic it wasn't as if I said Hey there, Damn your boobs looks sweet! Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted August 26, 2009 Share Posted August 26, 2009 well i don't know Blue? Sometimes i feel I come accross maturity issues like confidence. I mean my girl is a bombshell and her friend doesn't even come close, but she does tend to get extremely jealous. I just feel a disaster will arise if straight up say "Hey stop acting your age!" lol. You have to remember shes twenty, and Im nearly twenty and i have to say, Im not as mature as I could be. Its normal for twenty year old girls to be a little insecure...actually people of any age. I would be grumpy at my guy for commenting on my friends boobs. Do you say a lot of innapropriate stuff like that? Or is that just this once? Dont get me wrong, I dont think you've done anything really bad here, it depends on the context of the joke/response. What stuff normally gets her angry? Link to comment
dirtyd Posted August 26, 2009 Author Share Posted August 26, 2009 You have to remember shes twenty, and Im nearly twenty and i have to say, Im not as mature as I could be. Its normal for twenty year old girls to be a little insecure...actually people of any age. I would be grumpy at my guy for commenting on my friends boobs. Do you say a lot of innapropriate stuff like that? Or is that just this once? Dont get me wrong, I dont think you've done anything really bad here, it depends on the context of the joke/response. What stuff normally gets her angry? Well she mostly freeks out over ex girlfriends or anyone who's been near my penis in one way or another lol. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted August 26, 2009 Share Posted August 26, 2009 You just have to remind her that your past is your past and that your with her. Could you try and talk to her about it? You dont have to bring her age into it, as its more a personality issue than an age one. Link to comment
dirtyd Posted August 26, 2009 Author Share Posted August 26, 2009 Ah HA! Personality issue! That's it! I guess the hard part for her seems to be how we met. I'm a tattooer and she was a client. She also met me while i was with my ex and she KNOWS what kind of a dog I am capable of being, but that switch is off and laying dormant. I'm happy and don't need to turn it on. I'm just afraid that common sense on my level and on hers are 2 totally different things. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted August 26, 2009 Share Posted August 26, 2009 If she has heard bad stories about you in the past she might be worrying you might do the same to her. Just have a talk. Tell her what you just told us. Link to comment
dirtyd Posted August 26, 2009 Author Share Posted August 26, 2009 Just got off the phone and she let me have it. The old, "what if I said I saw your friend coming because of his junk!" Bah! I told her I understand and that biting my tongue is a trait that I have to work on, she told me it should be common sense. Gah! bashes head on monitor! Link to comment
dirtyd Posted August 26, 2009 Author Share Posted August 26, 2009 Hot girls get more attention from guys so they can act like spoiled brats. This is true, anyone got a manual on how a sarcastic bastard can learn to bite his tongue? Link to comment
annie24 Posted August 26, 2009 Share Posted August 26, 2009 I think making a comment about your gf's friend's boobs was over the line. Joking or not, I wouldn't want my guy joking about my friend's anatomy. yeah, i agree. i think that comment was over the line and inappropriate. Link to comment
jul-els Posted August 26, 2009 Share Posted August 26, 2009 Making fun of people's bodies is not the way to win friends and influence people. Link to comment
dirtyd Posted August 26, 2009 Author Share Posted August 26, 2009 Making fun of people's bodies is not the way to win friends and influence people. I wasn't making fun of anyone's body first of all, I would never do that. Her friend asked a question and I thick headedly answered. I will bite my tongue from now on. Honesty can really be a burden sometimes. I'm just so use to answering questions in a frank manner, that I guess the line blurs with my relationship sometimes...sigh. Link to comment
teabee Posted August 27, 2009 Share Posted August 27, 2009 Well she mostly freeks out over ex girlfriends or anyone who's been near my penis in one way or another lol. Lol! Are you her first relationship? Maybe if she hasn't had past relationships it's hard for her to understand that you've had people in your life before her, but they don't affect how you feel about her. Jealousy is a hard one to keep the reigns on, sometimes for me too. I don't like hearing about people in my guy's past because somehow it makes me feel like what he and I have isn't quite as special. Link to comment
June_Bug Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 I dunno, if the girl's boobs were really out there, I believe you were just stating the obvious. I'm sure the girl was well aware of how much cleavage she had showing. I think people of any age can be insecure, but I guess it would be pretty common for a girl of 20 to be upset about it. I think this may be just one of the challenges you have to deal with to date a girl that young, you know? Link to comment
Evvy Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 Hahaha! That's hilarious. If it's true, then perhaps it wasn't so much the truth your girl reacted to but the way you said it. Tact might go a long way. "Perhaps. But such is life." might have been a better way to reply the question. :S lol!!! Link to comment
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