Friend's Birthday party...normal?

[JadedStar]

It isn't totally surprising behavior if she just went thru a divorce. She is trying to make up for lost time and maybe her self esteem was squashed during the marriage and she is trying to get it back by dressing and acting this way. Maybe she is having a good time and not caring what people think for a little while. If the mild mannerism IS TRULY her personality she will come back to it when she gets this out of her system.

 

Either/or, it's all her choice and her own free will.

[blue69]

And the difference is? Is not a judgment formed from an opinion? Similarly "I thought you knew better than this" is also a judgment.

 

The fact is that when you express an opinion on someone's behaviour, as you did with the OP, you are expressing a judgment. If you believe one shouldn't judge, you shouldn't express the opinion.

 

However, I understand it is hard to accept that "he who lives in a glasshouse shouldn't throw stones".

 

LOL.. I guess that is true, who am I to judge?

 

It is true that judgement is not always used in a negative context, and I was doing that. Automatically aligning the two terms together.

 

We all draw conclusions, have opinions and therefore judge. I guess I focused on the negative conclusions about a person based on their openess or attitudes about sexuality. Many tend to "judge" harshly and negatively, those who embrace a more open attitude of sexuality.

 

In the same way people can "judge" others by skin color, race, sex, religion, disability, intelligence and any other criteria they deem important.

 

Judgement, however, doesn't always equal negativity. Got your point!

[rocio]

I was thinking something similar to JS. Perhaps she felt restricted in the marriage perhaps she lost herself at some point... Maybe this is a phase she needs to go through.

 

Unless she's burning bridges, dragging her reputation through the mud, or putting her children at risk, well... she knows that you're there for her. maybe just step aside, let her do what she needs to do and try not to judge her (I say that at the risk of sounding judgemental! lol...)

[KG]

I was thinking something similar to JS. Perhaps she felt restricted in the marriage perhaps she lost herself at some point... Maybe this is a phase she needs to go through.

 

Unless she's burning bridges, dragging her reputation through the mud, or putting her children at risk, well... she knows that you're there for her. maybe just step aside, let her do what she needs to do and try not to judge her (I say that at the risk of sounding judgemental! lol...)

 

She is putting her rep to risk...wearing an FU shirt(spelled out) to the local grocery? You think people don't notice that?

 

That said, I'll just stay out of it unless she wants to talk!

[CallingAllAngels]

She is putting her rep to risk...wearing an FU shirt(spelled out) to the local grocery? You think people don't notice that?

 

That said, I'll just stay out of it unless she wants to talk!

 

I'm surprised that the manager of the grocery store did not say something to her...certainly she must have offended other customers.

[KG]

I'm surprised that the manager of the grocery store did not say something to her...certainly she must have offended other customers.

 

Me too!....

[rocio]

Well, it's probably not boosting her reputation. But I doubt that people will be talking about a t-shirt 5 years later. Or about a drunken birthday party that didn't even involve nudity or sex.

 

Now if she starts making porn and selling it on e-bay, then you might want to think about an intervention.