Don't Understand.

[Tom K]

So the last 3 times ive hung out with this woman (in a group) ive been really excited to go see her and talk to her

then we get there and durin the night i talk to her-- a couple times when we are alone... and for some reason im not really attracted to her anymore.. so i think o well she was nice but i guess that ship has sailed

but then i leave i feel the attraction again and wish i could go back and see her

i dont understand why this happens

 

anybody have any ideas whats going on? i tried my friends and they dont really have an idea

[Daligal83]

Maybe you are physically attracted to her, but not attracted to her personality. So from afar, she looks good physically. But once you get some alone time with her, you're getting turned off by her personality.

[Tom K]

i dont think that is it... in fact if anything it would be the opposite way around... i dont almost ever find women id like to go out with because im pretty specific with personality i guess....thanks though

[Daligal83]

So then maybe it is the other way around? When you're not around her, you remember her personality and want to be with her. But if you're not attracted to her, when you're actually up close with her it goes away.

 

My only other thought is that you're afraid to get close to her for some reason.

[kuiks8]

perhaps you are attracted to the idea of her rather than who she actually is, and then when you are together there is no connection so you lose the attraction

[KiCkiT]

perhaps you are attracted to the idea of her rather than who she actually is, and then when you are together there is no connection so you lose the attraction

 

exactly what I was thinking