rowad Posted August 30, 2008 Share Posted August 30, 2008 I am with an awesome guy--I love him very much. But I am not quite satisfied with my sex life and need a little more spice. We are engaged---and I feel NOW should be when things are super exciting--and yet he doesn't seem to have the same appetite I do. I would like some dirty talk--some rough stuff (nothing wild) --some dress up etc...he is just into straight sex with very little words or change......he gets super sensitive about it and I am getting more and more impatient and depressed about it. He's old enough and has been married and divorced--so we are not talking about a kid here. Since his ex cheated on him I do not want to give him the idea that I will stray unless he complies....but at the same time I don't want to live out my life with everything suppressed. I have never had this problem before and it's starting to worry me....any thoughts/? The frequency isn't the issue--he is basically ok with having sex as often as I would like. It's just that he is pretty conventional...me? well--I love role play---romantic sex---dirty talk--rough sex---and alot more--there are things I have never done and would love to try---but--if he is't receptive to just saying certain things how does one move on? Also--he says he'll do certain things and then he doesn't--I wait months then get annoyed at him because of all the built up expectations. I usually love to dress up and do things--but if someone doesn't seem excited it takes the wind out of your sails and you don't have to ambition to do anything after a while. I may sound very unhappy but I'm really not--I mean I DO love him---and I AM satisfied sometimes. But I want this relationship to bring happiness for years to come--and be fulfilling in every way--not perfect--just fulfilling. for anyone who will suggest watching porn: I can't watch porn with a man who I can't talk dirty to---it's become too uncomfortable now also when I ask him what HIS fantasies are he says...he has none....is this even remotely possible??? I love this man and want to stay with him, Ro\\/ad Link to comment
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