Odysseus Posted July 23, 2008 Share Posted July 23, 2008 Okay...So this week I had a really good session with my therapist and we drilled down deeper into my avoidance of making love to my wife. Important: I am NOT the stereotypical man who can separate love and sex. For me I can't have one without the other. Period. Okay...so I completely have no sexual interest in her. This goes way beyond physical appearance. I care about her, and we connect on our children, but we really disconnect in so many ways. She's very insecure...I am not. Her career ambition is first and foremost to get some kind of respect on the job, I just want to do the best I can (I'm successful and have really built my career on this). She (even after she's received lots of counseling and is much healthier mentally) still spends a lot of time judging other people. I do not. I'm not perfect, but generally I accept people for how they are. She does love me...I know that. I don't know if I love her anymore, and this is breaking my heart. We are now (after a lot of counseling) able to talk about these things, but this train of thought is a tough one to open up with her about. God...we just bought a house. My kids are 8 and 11. Can I stay in a marriage like this if we can't fix it? How long? Is it fair to either of us? Any advice from folks who are in like situations would be helpful. I haven't given up. It's just very frustrating and troubling. I'm not depressed anymore. These are some pretty clear emotions and feelings I'm having. Link to comment
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