after a good first date, who should initiate contact?

[newyorkpsps]

well, I met a guy off line for the first time the past Sunday. There's no super chemistry, but I usually won't feel the chemistry until 2nd or 3rd official date. but he is nice, funny, respectable, and we've a lot in common. He seems interested too.

 

so I told him I'll buy him lunch next time, and he even suggested a place. then he asked me to contact him when I'm not busy. I'm expecting him to at least email me a brief note that he enjoyed my company Sunday, but I didn't received anything from him yet. Should I initiate contact with him? I'd like to see him again and find out whether there's more chemistry but I'm also fine not seeing him again.

 

so I guess if he won't contact me, I'll pass... right thing to do?

 

ps. I've asked for his number but he didn't know mine because i blocked my caller ID when I called him.

 

thanks.

[Cognitive_Canine]

I'd say the balls in your court here. Make contact and set another date up.

[ConfusedDater]

Well I made the first contact on Friday after a first date I had on Thursday through email and she replied back. So I expect to be going out with her again before the July 4th Weekend

 

 

Actually I have made the firt contact after my last 3 first dates

[CallingAllAngels]

I don't think guys are the best at emailing thank yous.

 

I think if you like him, you should call him and set up plans for the lunch date, plain and simple.

 

Dating has turned so complicated...try to just keep it simple!

 

Good luck to you!

 

~Allie

[ConfusedDater]

I don't think guys are the best at emailing thank yous.

 

I think if you like him, you should call him and set up plans for the lunch date, plain and simple.

 

Dating has turned so complicated...try to just keep it simple!

 

Good luck to you!

 

~Allie

 

 

And the thing that is so annoying is that IT DOESN"T HAVE TO BE COMPLICATED

 

 

If you like someone and want to see them again, just call and set up another date instead of all that PHONE GAME crap

[CallingAllAngels]

and The Thing That Is So Annoying Is That It Doesn"t Have To Be Complicated

 

 

If You Like Someone And Want To See Them Again, Just Call And Set Up Another Date Instead Of All That Phone Game Crap

 

Amen To That!

[Crazyaboutdogs]

And the thing that is so annoying is that IT DOESN"T HAVE TO BE COMPLICATED

 

 

If you like someone and want to see them again, just call and set up another date instead of all that PHONE GAME crap

 

I second Allie's amen to that!

[brian123]

I guess I should take my own medicine, but if two people like each other, as long as you play things reasonably intelligently, I don't think anything will keep them apart, especially silly "dating rules"

[ghost69]

he asked you to call him when you have time. you agreed. so it's your turn. also, if you want to continue with someone, why block your phone number?

[ycmanvs]

In the beginning it is ok to call up and tell him that you enjoyed the date. Most guys need that extra confidence boost in the very beginning. If he told you to call him, then, by all means, do so.

[ghost69]

if i had a good date, i'll send a text that says i had a great time. i have yet to receive a bad response to that.

[drewciouS281]

Its in your court chicky but maybe first you should figure out if you are interested in getting to know this dude cause right now it sounds half wit. You need to contact him now.

[CallingAllAngels]

I don't see why anyone has to go by dating "rules/games".

 

I say if you like the person, call them. That goes for either sex. Period.

[newyorkpsps]

he asked you to call him when you have time. you agreed. so it's your turn. also, if you want to continue with someone, why block your phone number?

 

thanks. i think I'll contact him again today. It's ok whoever make contact first, but i do wish the guys initiate things.(personal preference I guess).

and before I meet the person, I don't want to reveal my phone number, i've met clingy guys who wants to explode my cell phone after only one date... just be cautious. I'm very cautious person. anyway, thanks all for the good advices

[ghost69]

thanks. i think I'll contact him again today. It's ok whoever make contact first, but i do wish the guys initiate things.(personal preference I guess).

and before I meet the person, I don't want to reveal my phone number, i've met clingy guys who wants to explode my cell phone after only one date... just be cautious. I'm very cautious person. anyway, thanks all for the good advices

 

next time you say 'okay, give me a call sometime.' then it's his turn.

[newyorkpsps]

next time you say 'okay, give me a call sometime.' then it's his turn.

 

thanks. ghost, do you know why this guy ask me to call him? not confident? not interested? or doesn't mean anything? thanks

[ghost69]

thanks. ghost, do you know why this guy ask me to call him? not confident? not interested? or doesn't mean anything? thanks

 

maybe he's trying to gauge your interest. at the start it's push n pull. or maybe he's the type that likes to be chased. but keep it light. don't give him too much. keep him guessing.

[CallingAllAngels]

It shouldn't be this difficult......