happytobealive Posted June 19, 2008 Share Posted June 19, 2008 Hey all, I know this will seem trivial, but its bothering me so please give me any advice you have! Right I went to school with this guy, I tranferred to another school, now we are in college. We have begun hanging out every so often since september, because we have a simliar group of friends. I heard it through the grape vine that he was really interested in me. I basicaly made my feelings known. (I fancy him). We all went out as a group last week where I was getting LOTS of flity signs from him. Then he started talking about his ex, so by the end of the night we ended up on a friends couch cuddled up. Since then he has been txting me on and off, I got really frusterated with not knowing what was going on between us so I asked him out on a date. He said he would love to and appoligised for not asking me out ages ago. We texted about this for a while and basically he said he was pathetic at "this sort of thing" ie. dating. Now comes the bad bit. That was monday its now thursday night! The dates on Tuesday and I havent heard a thing. He Isn't busy, and I'm preety sure he has credit. Why has he not txt me? Have I made a total of my self for asking him out when he clearly isnt interested? and how lond should I leave it until I make other plans for tuesday night? I have no work on wednsday and Im not wasing that nighgt on somone that wants to be else where.... What should I do? Link to comment
DN Posted June 19, 2008 Share Posted June 19, 2008 Well, you asked him out on a date so it's up to you to call him and make the arrangements. Link to comment
happytobealive Posted June 19, 2008 Author Share Posted June 19, 2008 Oh I have like I said tuesday we'd go out for drinks. Is it up to me to do all the comunicating until then? Link to comment
DN Posted June 19, 2008 Share Posted June 19, 2008 Did you set date, time and place and where you would meet? Link to comment
happytobealive Posted June 19, 2008 Author Share Posted June 19, 2008 No, maybee I should but I feel like Im compleetly putting myself out there and he isnt recipricating. when should I arrange the time and place etc, sun? Link to comment
SupaflyTNT Posted June 19, 2008 Share Posted June 19, 2008 Go ahead and set things up this time since you started it, do the communicating for him. When you show him an absolutely awesome time and end your date, tell him next time it's HIS turn. Leave it in his court for a follow up date. If he's still scared to call you for another date then you don't want to get involved with someone that insecure, do you? Oh, and arrange it whenever you want to. Just don't wait until the day of. Link to comment
wurth_skidder Posted June 19, 2008 Share Posted June 19, 2008 No later than Sunday. Keep in mind that he said he's horrible about this, so you may have to do a lot of the work in the beginning until you can teach him how to reciprocate. It's up to you whether you feel he is worth the trouble of you helping him learn how to be good at dating, good at being a boyfriend, etc. Link to comment
SupaflyTNT Posted June 19, 2008 Share Posted June 19, 2008 No later than Sunday. Keep in mind that he said he's horrible about this, so you may have to do a lot of the work in the beginning until you can teach him how to reciprocate. It's up to you whether you feel he is worth the trouble of you helping him learn how to be good at dating, good at being a boyfriend, etc. This is actually really good too. Like wurth says, you just may have to teach him some skillz. Link to comment
happytobealive Posted June 19, 2008 Author Share Posted June 19, 2008 No later than Sunday. Keep in mind that he said he's horrible about this, so you may have to do a lot of the work in the beginning until you can teach him how to reciprocate. It's up to you whether you feel he is worth the trouble of you helping him learn how to be good at dating, good at being a boyfriend, etc. I know I just feel like ai knobe for being the only one to show how I feel. ARRGH. Just coz he is horrible is no excuse/..... Link to comment
SupaflyTNT Posted June 19, 2008 Share Posted June 19, 2008 I guess you have to decide if it's worth it to you. There are plenty of guys out there. Link to comment
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